its all about give and take, which they disagree with.
it was fine for many years, but my eight year old has to learn that you get what you give in life, no free lunches, etc...
but they don't get it.
its always me,me , my , i want give me...
ask them to do basic things like pick up after themselves, it'll last an entire weekend. during the course of the weekened they will literally defy our request and make their mess 10X worse.
i partly blame my wife for always giving up, and doing it for them.