Giving off the wrong signals

[Calandale]

Good point. I can imagine, trying to avoid crowded aisles and
such. I tend to just stop and stare at the guards, which either
freaks them out, or gets them talking. Which is cool, because
I can get them off my case either way. They decide I'm just
nuts.

[SovaNu]

that's so cool. i could never act crazy like that unless i was high. which i have done. but it wasn't intentional.

if i'm sober i'm so anxious i try to act normally and not draw attention, i try to look at the cashier in the eyes as much as i can and stuff. but i think they see i'm anxious. hopefully they just think i'm shy.

[Calandale]

I'm really not acting.

[Eclair]

lol I don't flirt with people either. I don't think I know how. 

I think that's the thing. I don't really know how to flirt, but my wife says I do it all the time with everybody. She has called me down a few times for flirting with gay guys and said that I was being mean to them. I was not flirting!

I get very focused on people and have to ask them a million questions, which probably gets misconstrued as romantic interest a lot. 

My husband has said the same thing about me, but I'm definitely not flirting with anyone.  Maybe I was trying to not be unfriendly to people, but that's all.

[Callaway]

lol I don't flirt with people either. I don't think I know how. 

I think that's the thing. I don't really know how to flirt, but my wife says I do it all the time with everybody. She has called me down a few times for flirting with gay guys and said that I was being mean to them. I was not flirting!

My husband has said the same thing about me, but I'm definitely not flirting with anyone.  Maybe I was trying to not be unfriendly to people, but that's all.

I get very focused on people and have to ask them a million questions, which probably gets misconstrued as romantic interest a lot.

Quote fixed.

 

I ask some people questions about themselves too, because that is what I think that you are supposed to do to engage them in conversation.  Probably not a million though.

 

[Eclair]

lol I don't flirt with people either. I don't think I know how. 

I think that's the thing. I don't really know how to flirt, but my wife says I do it all the time with everybody. She has called me down a few times for flirting with gay guys and said that I was being mean to them. I was not flirting!

My husband has said the same thing about me, but I'm definitely not flirting with anyone.  Maybe I was trying to not be unfriendly to people, but that's all.

I get very focused on people and have to ask them a million questions, which probably gets misconstrued as romantic interest a lot.

Quote fixed.

 

I ask some people questions about themselves too, because that is what I think that you are supposed to do to engage them in conversation.  Probably not a million though.

 

See, I got so excited about conveying how interested I can get with people I fucked my own comment up!

I think people are flattered at first, however IRL, it can be a bit disconcerting for people to feel interrogated after a while!  Oops.

[Callaway]

lol I don't flirt with people either. I don't think I know how. 

I think that's the thing. I don't really know how to flirt, but my wife says I do it all the time with everybody. She has called me down a few times for flirting with gay guys and said that I was being mean to them. I was not flirting!

My husband has said the same thing about me, but I'm definitely not flirting with anyone.  Maybe I was trying to not be unfriendly to people, but that's all.

I get very focused on people and have to ask them a million questions, which probably gets misconstrued as romantic interest a lot.

Quote fixed.

 

I ask some people questions about themselves too, because that is what I think that you are supposed to do to engage them in conversation.  Probably not a million though.

 

See, I got so excited about conveying how interested I can get with people I fucked my own comment up!

I think people are flattered at first, however IRL, it can be a bit disconcerting for people to feel interrogated after a while!  Oops.

I wonder if I make people feel interrogated IRL.

 

[Eclair]

lol I don't flirt with people either. I don't think I know how. 

I think that's the thing. I don't really know how to flirt, but my wife says I do it all the time with everybody. She has called me down a few times for flirting with gay guys and said that I was being mean to them. I was not flirting!

My husband has said the same thing about me, but I'm definitely not flirting with anyone.  Maybe I was trying to not be unfriendly to people, but that's all.

I get very focused on people and have to ask them a million questions, which probably gets misconstrued as romantic interest a lot.

Quote fixed.

 

I ask some people questions about themselves too, because that is what I think that you are supposed to do to engage them in conversation.  Probably not a million though.

 

See, I got so excited about conveying how interested I can get with people I fucked my own comment up!

I think people are flattered at first, however IRL, it can be a bit disconcerting for people to feel interrogated after a while!  Oops.

I wonder if I make people feel interrogated IRL.

 

The most embarrassing thing is I remember people's birthdays (=numbers to me).  (Not that I'd ever give a shit to ring them or anything) Once I know a date or something about someone, I never forget it usually.  Can be flattering for them, or disconcerting.

[El]

Ive read all the theory on flirting. Tried it for a while. Of course, a complete failure.
Im happy with just being myself nowadays. Putting on this flirting act was just ridiculous.

As for people flirting with me. I dont really know. I keep getting invited around for a cup of tea with a woman i know, she says, "pop around anytime." But i would not do that unannounced and i cant recipocrate the offer - i mean i cant have people come around without an appointment so to speak.
I wish she would be more clearer in her intentions. Like, pop over now, or tomorrow at 2pm - whatever, im in a bit of a quandary.

How about saying,  "Sounds good, I'll be there tomorrow around 2pm."?

[Kosmonaut]

Ive read all the theory on flirting. Tried it for a while. Of course, a complete failure.
Im happy with just being myself nowadays. Putting on this flirting act was just ridiculous.

As for people flirting with me. I dont really know. I keep getting invited around for a cup of tea with a woman i know, she says, "pop around anytime." But i would not do that unannounced and i cant recipocrate the offer - i mean i cant have people come around without an appointment so to speak.
I wish she would be more clearer in her intentions. Like, pop over now, or tomorrow at 2pm - whatever, im in a bit of a quandary.

How about saying,  "Sounds good, I'll be there tomorrow around 2pm."?

Yes, i will do that next time.
I actually just popped round but i heard some arguing going on inside, so i ran off.

[Calandale]

I think people are flattered at first, however IRL, it can be a bit disconcerting for people to feel interrogated after a while!  Oops.

Indeed. I deal with people doing this.
At first, it's okay for a narcissist, but
eventually, one wonders. Mainly though,
I wonder HOW they can be interested.

[Calandale]

I actually just popped round but i heard some arguing going on inside, so i ran off.

And missed the excitement? 

[Kosmonaut]

I actually just popped round but i heard some arguing going on inside, so i ran off.

And missed the excitement? 

Yes, the excitement of getting involved in some random domestic dispute.
How could i resist.

[enronh]

Ive read all the theory on flirting. Tried it for a while. Of course, a complete failure.
Im happy with just being myself nowadays. Putting on this flirting act was just ridiculous.

As for people flirting with me. I dont really know. I keep getting invited around for a cup of tea with a woman i know, she says, "pop around anytime." But i would not do that unannounced and i cant recipocrate the offer - i mean i cant have people come around without an appointment so to speak.
I wish she would be more clearer in her intentions. Like, pop over now, or tomorrow at 2pm - whatever, im in a bit of a quandary.

How about saying,  "Sounds good, I'll be there tomorrow around 2pm."?

Yes, i will do that next time.
I actually just popped round but i heard some arguing going on inside, so i ran off.

Maybe try bringing a book or dvd or something saying you thought she might like to borrow it. Or a cake!

[SovaNu]

i never remember birthdays unless it's been pounded into my skull.