Giving off the wrong signals

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I wish people would flirt with me... I've only had one person..well two but lets not discuss that one.  (neither of them were renaeden!)


I sometimes give off a "hostile vibe" when I'm just being passive. It can be somewhat disconcerting and irritating trying to explain that I'm "not being hostile, that's just the way I am"

I give off that "hostile vibe" all the time I don't me too and I don't really like the reaction I get but don't know how to change it

[SovaNu]

try smiling.

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try smiling.

That doesn't come naturally to me and when I do it looks fake

[Tesla]

I think I appear pretty normal at first, but of my last three girlfriends, three of them thought I might murder them someday.

I occasionally get flirted with, but it's usually when I'm drunk.

[DirtDawg]

lol I don't flirt with people either. I don't think I know how. 

I think that's the thing. I don't really know how to flirt, but my wife says I do it all the time with everybody. She has called me down a few times for flirting with gay guys and said that I was being mean to them. I was not flirting!

[DirtDawg]

I flirted once...It was disturbingly overdone on my part and I'm sure I scared alot of people, including my partner in flirtingness.

This is what happens when I "TRY" to flirt.

I used to get hit for it, too.

I have gone to TRYING  to give everybody a, "FUCK OFF!" vibe and that seems to work better for me, too.

[Soph]

lol I don't flirt with people either. I don't think I know how. 

I think that's the thing. I don't really know how to flirt, but my wife says I do it all the time with everybody. She has called me down a few times for flirting with gay guys and said that I was being mean to them. I was not flirting!

I've had a similar thing. People used to tell me I flirted with a guy I sat with in French in year 11. I don't even like guys though, and he was gay anyway 

[Calandale]

Same here, just that I get called a "slut" and a "whore" and such.

Only as a token of affection, from me.

[Calandale]

lol I don't flirt with people either. I don't think I know how. 

I think that's the thing. I don't really know how to flirt, but my wife says I do it all the time with everybody. She has called me down a few times for flirting with gay guys and said that I was being mean to them. I was not flirting!

I used to get accused too. But, I think I've figured out
what it is - just the way in which I tend to play. But, when
I'm actually interested, I have trouble playing. Too nervous.

[El]

The second time I hung out with my current boyfriend, we had been sort of sitting arm-in-arm, then he got up and when he sat back down again he didn't put his arm around me again.  I figured it out after a second- I had repositioned myself in his absence and was sitting one of the ways that was most comfortable for wher I was sitting, which had me with my legs curled up against myself, which probably made me look uncomfortable.  I just said something like,  "Ah, I just noticed I probably look uncomfortable- I'm not, I just sit like this.  If I'm uncomfortable I'll tell you."  Worked pretty well. 

[Fritz the Cat]

Same here, just that I get called a "slut" and a "whore" and such.

Only as a token of affection, from me.

Sorry love, but you are not the only one that calls me that.

[SovaNu]

The second time I hung out with my current boyfriend, we had been sort of sitting arm-in-arm, then he got up and when he sat back down again he didn't put his arm around me again.  I figured it out after a second- I had repositioned myself in his absence and was sitting one of the ways that was most comfortable for wher I was sitting, which had me with my legs curled up against myself, which probably made me look uncomfortable.  I just said something like,  "Ah, I just noticed I probably look uncomfortable- I'm not, I just sit like this.  If I'm uncomfortable I'll tell you."  Worked pretty well. 

i sit like that all the time. i always curl my legs in some fashion, curl into a ball. i can't sit like other people, i get cold and feel odd like i don't have support. how could i appear uncomfortable when it's most comfortable? i never thought of that.

I used to get accused too. But, I think I've figured out
what it is - just the way in which I tend to play. But, when
I'm actually interested, I have trouble playing. Too nervous.

i think flirting is just being playful, only normies do it with an intent and i don't. i have no intent of it going anywhere, i just want to play.

[Callaway]

lol I don't flirt with people either. I don't think I know how. 

I think that's the thing. I don't really know how to flirt, but my wife says I do it all the time with everybody. She has called me down a few times for flirting with gay guys and said that I was being mean to them. I was not flirting!

My husband has said the same thing about me, but I'm definitely not flirting with anyone.  Maybe I was trying to not be unfriendly to people, but that's all.

[Kosmonaut]

Ive read all the theory on flirting. Tried it for a while. Of course, a complete failure.
Im happy with just being myself nowadays. Putting on this flirting act was just ridiculous.

As for people flirting with me. I dont really know. I keep getting invited around for a cup of tea with a woman i know, she says, "pop around anytime." But i would not do that unannounced and i cant recipocrate the offer - i mean i cant have people come around without an appointment so to speak.
I wish she would be more clearer in her intentions. Like, pop over now, or tomorrow at 2pm - whatever, im in a bit of a quandary.

[SovaNu]

try popping around at 2pm.