I thought We were having a discussion only.
My question is how do You know when You are in agrgument?
This happens a lot with Me and Her.
Kevv, I've been married to the same woman for fourteen years, now. Well, approaching fifteen years: I hope I don't forget the anniversary, ever!
She and I, sometimes, do not communicate well, evven stilll!!!. My fault - her fault, whatever the fuck - sometimes we need to be apart. Wwe have made a commitmentment to each other, though.No matter what the other one does, we will try to find the good in the opposing argument. We will try to work through the problems as they arise.
It sometimes happens that I think she is "on my asss" and sometimes she thinks the same thing. People argue when there is something worth arguing about. The main things is do you want to be together, despite any compatibility problems that may arise? Do you want to stay together? If so, then take a deep breath and start to listen better. Ofeten the whole problem goes away, after you step back and try to understand what the other one is saying.
Basically, what Tesla said is a googd guidline. If she feel piut upon or stressed because the issue is important, and who knows what na important issue may be, then the issue is worth trying your best to understand.