I never understood women or men for that matter who stay in these abusive relationships and I have know plenty. My brother offered to take out my sisters ex after they found out she freaked out saying no but got a divorce a couple years later. He was a stalker after too I was living with her at the time and was ready with a bat to knock him back down the stairs to the apartment if I ever saw him. I never understood wife abuse and have a very bad reaction to it
It's damned hard to get out of - on either end.
At least, if you love one another. And, there are
things worse than abuse.
I find it hard to understand that a husband can love his wife and also beat her up and hurt her. It is hard to watch something like that happen when there is nothing you can do about it because you are a kid.
Remember that I believe that hate is merely a type of
love. That said though, 'tis just as easy as believing that
someone can love another, and not devote themselves
totally to that person - other things can interfere. Thus,
if someone is threatening all that you hold dear, other than
themselves (or maybe even themself - in some cases), physical
action may be necessary.
Life can be quite fucked up.