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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #570 on: May 17, 2007, 06:39:43 PM »
Its kinda difficult to explain my views on secondary relationships, especially at the this time of night.  Perhaps I should go to bed, as I've been saying I would for the past 30 minutes, and answers these in the morning.
you won't go to bed until i start BBQing the steaks.

you hear me girl.
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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #571 on: May 17, 2007, 06:40:28 PM »
Its kinda difficult to explain my views on secondary relationships, especially at the this time of night.  Perhaps I should go to bed, as I've been saying I would for the past 30 minutes, and answers these in the morning.
you won't go to bed until i start BBQing the steaks.

you hear me girl.

Thanks- you knew that would make me log off just to be contrary.  :laugh:

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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #572 on: May 17, 2007, 06:41:42 PM »
let me see for myself....
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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #573 on: May 17, 2007, 06:42:33 PM »
you are such a rebel.

manufactured, but yeah, a rebel. ;)
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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #574 on: May 17, 2007, 06:45:00 PM »
So, who built you?

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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #575 on: May 20, 2007, 04:57:17 AM »
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Maybe I'm not explaining myself on the talking dirty part.  I can't take it from someone who I think is inferior to me, inteligence wise.  I know that sounds harsh, but it's true...I can't help my little quirks.
This was a while back when I was still figuring out what I liked in bed, so in this instance, I went for looks rather than intelligence....he is probably the person who convinced me to always go for intelligence or it wasn't going to stand a chance in the sex department.

Does that make sense??

I kind of understand this- I personally just don't find stupidity attractive.  Its not like people need to be a genius but I prefer people who can challenge me away from the bedroom.

Doesn't this rather go against the whole 'fling' thing?

I'm pretty sure that someone who matched my interests in
and out of bed, would cause me to fall for them.


 Like I said before our relationship doesn't seem to fit any of the appropriate labels-  an 'open relationship' tends to imply that any other relationships must be sex only, but I don't think that's always realistic.  Sure you can set ground rules about what you can offer in a secondary relationship but you can't always predict how you'll feel about someone or something in advance. So whilst we don't have the rule that all secondary relationships must be sex only, the 'polyamorous' label doesn't really fit either since neither of us go looking for other romantic relationships.

  People tend to assume that if you have a relationship like ours its just an excuse to shag around , we've even had people claiming that our sex life wasn't all that great if we felt we had to have other partners, or that we shouldn't have got married if that's what we wanted.    But its really not about that- we have been together since we were 17 and married since we were 20, we've grown together and whilst we got married as a commitment to our relationship neither of us feel that marriage should equal ownership.  For anyone who knows how important sex is to me the idea that we'd have lasted so long without fantastic sex is laughable really.

  Because we have such a strong relationship we don't see having this lifestyle as risking what we already have.  Neither of us generally seek out other partners, but we don't close ourselves off from the idea that from time to time we might meet someone that we want to have a secondary relationship with- whether that's of the sex-only or 'friend with benefits' type.   

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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #576 on: May 20, 2007, 05:02:57 AM »
have you ever told one of these secondary relationship people that you love them?
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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #577 on: May 20, 2007, 05:03:19 AM »
I'm impressed as hell that you are both
wise enough, and in control enough to
make this work. I know that I couldn't.

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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #578 on: May 20, 2007, 06:04:37 AM »
i find that sweatpants are almost as convenient as moo-moos.

Yeah, but, sweatpants are so comfortable and I don't have to wear underwear with them. :eyebrows:

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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #579 on: May 20, 2007, 06:10:21 AM »
Do you wear underwear with anything?

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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #580 on: May 20, 2007, 06:32:14 AM »
Yes, when I wear regular pants, like jeans or dress pants when we go out. 

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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #581 on: May 20, 2007, 06:34:30 AM »
i find that sweatpants are almost as convenient as moo-moos.

Yeah, but, sweatpants are so comfortable and I don't have to wear underwear with them. :eyebrows:
in SoCal, we call that free-balling!
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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #582 on: May 20, 2007, 06:35:07 AM »
I was actually asking whomever's thread we are spamming,
but that's cool. I stopped about when I hit puberty. I do
wear silk boxers with my dry cleanables though.

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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #583 on: May 20, 2007, 06:36:19 AM »
i find that sweatpants are almost as convenient as moo-moos.

Yeah, but, sweatpants are so comfortable and I don't have to wear underwear with them. :eyebrows:
in SoCal, we call that free-balling!
We call it commando style.

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Re: My ask away thread
« Reply #584 on: May 20, 2007, 06:44:08 AM »
We call it commando style.

This term confused the crap out of me
when I started seeing it on quizzes.
Just makes no sense.

I hate feeling restrained. Never
understood women wearing regular
bras either.