PI given your preference etc i dont honestly expect you to think any other way. So its all good. Like ive said before, whether i agree or disagree with something, find it wrong or whatever etc, i will naturally voice my view but i still aknowledge the other persons right to their opinion also, and im glad your honest about yours, the way i am mine. Your entitled to your opinion and i do respect that right even though my personal opinions and education etc cause me to disagree. Its cool your also interested in the AS vs NT thing.
Ozy yes, and as for the last part of your statement i do actually sort of agree, and as far as im concerned theres not enough emphasis on teaching safe sex, sorting out the teenage or unwanted pregnancies, promiscuous underage sex (like the stuff etc we discussed a few days ago via PM), the spiralling abortion rate (which with todays contraception and advice available theres not many excuses for it when it comes to supposed multiple "accidents" etc), substance abuse fullstop, domestic violence (which is being handled better here in Scotland now due to specific systems, and special courts etc for it, but there has still not been enough education on it, or support for kids who have to suffer for their parents mistakes etc), and poverty/homelessness etc also amongst other issues that need to be dealt with or that need to get more exposure, help etc. (It actually does my tits in that the National Lottery here funds various projects, but instead of funding projects/things that are more deserving etc, they usually fund the biggest load of shit, they could even easily half or lower the actual lottery winners amount itself because its too much anyways, and instead use the rest to benefit public interest/welfare etc as a whole but no they dont do that, its so tedious.)
At the end of the day they have to teach some form of morality or such (especially if kids arent getting it at home due to poor parenting skills or simply having shit parents, poor role models etc) to solve some of these problems and prevent them from escalating, there are enough dregs in society. Even if they do try and address those problems (like our government has tried with some minor issues) they will still get whinged at by the people who do the whole "theyre just trying to control us, its becoming a police state", "we are being forcefed morality" or "its breaching our human rights" and such. Theyre basically in a catch 22 situation so to speak.
peoples rigid views on sex, i think, boils down to the teachings of the bible. many people consider themselves religious, and/or were raised that way. of course an open relationship is the most frowned upon. to me, it just means that people are bound by their bias and prejudice without actually being open to things other than what they were taught or are already familiar with.
my wife and i do not have an open sexual relationship, we do not have several partners. that is because this is the way that she prefers it (being monogamous). if i had my drethers, then we would have an open relationship. but i will not have physical relations with anybody else, but only out of respect for her preferences.
Well McJ, i personally dont have rigid views on sex, but i have respect for monogamous relationships (when it comes to serious or long term relationships) and marriage, as far as im personally concerned if people dont have proper respect etc for those two things then they really shouldnt bother with them, should they, especially marriage (its just hypocritical), but i dont think i need to explain my position or views further etc. We are all entitled to our own opinions etc naturally, and im entitled to mine which is the above, and that is my own individual personal opinion based on my own views etc, which i did actually put aside whilst i did the study i was involved in at the time so i wasnt biased (as i tend to do all studies, as its best to detach/seperate yourself, especially with some of the topics etc that do come up), but yes even though quite a few of my views pretty much fitted in with the study results and popular opinion based on the qualitive and quantitive evidence collected and provided that we were privy to and part of, i had my own personal views before hand initially anyways, and it wasnt a case of me afterwards just simply agreeing with popular consensus or the majority. (Hey maybe the majority of them were simply just NTs
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The bible whats that? remember im an old school Hindu
Christianity has dealt with sexuality in such a hysterical yet hypocritical way, especially when it comes to "Mary" or the feminine, the bible can be amusing, especially if you research certain elements, stories etc. However as much as i have my opinion and im not afraid to voice it, i do respect a persons faith, what they find comfort in, whether i disagree or whatever.
Its good you respect your wifes preferences and your vows, marriage. Out of curiousity is your wife an NT?
I must confess the idea of an open relationship was in my mind too! But, I have also seen open relationships fail miserably and I have too much respect and appreciation for my wife too. Besides I'm too lazy to hunt around and since her sex drive is stronger than mine, at my age, it's all I can do to satisfy one woman! And she's worth it!
Typical man
We've discussed you and your wife before, and i think you seem like a wonderful couple and very well suited, its great you respect and appreciate her as much as she no doubt does you, from the way youve described her etc im sure she is worth it. As for your last comment, that did make me grin.