I've been thinking about these, for whatever
reason, recently. They're more for those who
remain, than for the dead.
My grandfather died some time ago, and had
wished for a wake, rather than a more ordinary
funeral. His wife more or less set up an open casket
thing - exactly what he most hated.
My mother was really pissed about the whole thing.
She felt that his will in the matter should have been
respected - maybe out of some fear that we won't
do the same for her.
Personally, I just don't give a shit, so I probably will
try and respect her wishes. I can't much expect that
anyone else in the family would do differently. (though
making stew out of her doesn't sound too bad)
Anyhow, I'm kinda wondering how others here feel
about a conflict between the wishes of the deceased,
and those of the family.