as i just said in my rather long winded message
http://www.intensitysquared.com/index.php?topic=6509.msg291192#msg291192it dont matter if ur crap at socialising... do you think that everyone is great to begin with... hah hell no... i wish.
just get out there... gradually at first if its too much... but just putting your foot in the door is a good start, thats how i did it... and now i can pretty much socialise with any group of people... its all about finding common ground, or if that fails, finding something to connect with others, pretty much any aspect of life can be used to convey a social message, given the right context.
and if that fails then your trying too hard or mixing with the wrong people.
it gets better with practise tho... i can asure you.