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[Lucifer]

Do you find that women go over, more quickly
than men?

go over?

to be honest, i have very few long term friends.  i expect its the aspie thing.  i find it difficult to maintain relationships of any kind (for various reasons), and have to think about what my relationship is with people every time i meet them, unless i see them/interact with them in some way, all the time.

[Calandale]

Do you find that women go over, more quickly
than men?

go over?

Orgasm.

to be honest, i have very few long term friends.  i expect its the aspie thing.  i find it difficult to maintain relationships of any kind (for various reasons), and have to think about what my relationship is with people every time i meet them, unless i see them/interact with them in some way, all the time.

What do you consider 'long term'?

I'm always losing people, and not quite sure why.
Do you think that it's my attitude? 

[Lucifer]

Do you find that women go over, more quickly
than men?

go over?

Orgasm.

not really qualified to say, having only slept with one woman.  the literature would suggest women take longer than men, but i know that depends on many factors, for women.

to be honest, i have very few long term friends.  i expect its the aspie thing.  i find it difficult to maintain relationships of any kind (for various reasons), and have to think about what my relationship is with people every time i meet them, unless i see them/interact with them in some way, all the time.

What do you consider 'long term'?

more than a couple of years.  possibly, keeping in contact when you don't see/interact with that person on a regular, frequent basis.  no hard and fast rule.

I'm always losing people, and not quite sure why.
Do you think that it's my attitude? 

probably.  and the fact you don't go to where people are, but expect them to come to you.  you';re probably also similar to me in that i only keep people around if i get something out of it.  that sounds terribly cold and manipulatve, but it's just honest - everyone does it, to some degree, whether they get attention, love, sex, employment, companionship, whatever, out of it, and i'm simply aware of it, and admit it: it's not to say i don't care about people (although there are very few i do care about).

[Calandale]

probably.  and the fact you don't go to where people are, but expect them to come to you.  you';re probably also similar to me in that i only keep people around if i get something out of it.  that sounds terribly cold and manipulatve, but it's just honest - everyone does it, to some degree, whether they get attention, love, sex, employment, companionship, whatever, out of it, and i'm simply aware of it, and admit it: it's not to say i don't care about people (although there are very few i do care about).

QFT


But, I make the greater effort,
when I part from people. It's funny.
I don't really feel confused if I piss people
off. Or lose them when I'm NOT making an
effort. But, those that I was in close contact,
just disappear - no more e-mails, no nothing (and
no, usually the are still alive  ), even though
I send stuff to them. I'm not talking about there
being any fight either - parting for purely random
reasons (jobs whatever). Seems others can manage,
but, at a distance, whatever held just slips away.

[Lucifer]

we just don't get the subtle bits of relating, i suspect.  well, hold the front page, and then tell us we haven't got AS...

[Calandale]

Damned if I really know or care what
is 'wrong' with me. I don't want it 'fixed'.

[Lucifer]

mostly, i don't, either.  far too often recently, though, i just wish i had the ability to keep important relationships.

[Calandale]

Do you find it harder to make friends,
with age?

[Lucifer]

never found it hard to make friends - i seem to be likeable.  just that i can't sustain things - i'm getting more and more tired, and everything seems so much effort.  that's due to depression, i know, but i think age comes into it, yes - i no longer have the energy.

[Tristeza]

Lucifer, you come across as very confident online.  Are you as confident in person?  And why are you depressed?  Sorry if that's too personal a question.   

[Lucifer]

Lucifer, you come across as very confident online.  Are you as confident in person?  And why are you depressed?  Sorry if that's too personal a question.   

no, i'm not always as confident in person.  often not, in fact.  sadly, i always look as though i am, for some reason, and so everyone expects me to actually be like that.

i've had depression all my life.  this one's the result of something in my personal life, so i won't elaborate more.  but i don't you asking, as long as you don't mind me not really answering.

[Tristeza]

Lucifer, can you guess my astrological sign? 

Do you like Bill Bryson?  I think I remember seeing his name in your Last.fm list awhile back.  I think he's hilarious.   

[Lucifer]

Lucifer, can you guess my astrological sign? 

Do you like Bill Bryson?  I think I remember seeing his name in your Last.fm list awhile back.  I think he's hilarious.   

no, and yes. 

i'm not that brilliant at astrology, not in that way, anyway.  i do stonking good birthcharts, though - they should be cos they take me days.

bryson is fucking hilarious.  it shouldn't, cos he does it so often, but every time he says something like "Buttplug, Arizona", i piss myself laughing. 

[Tristeza]

I'm a Sagittarius!   

I absolutely love Bill Bryson!  I read Neither Here nor There:  Travels in Europe twice, and yes I peed myself, too!  Especially over his experiences in Austria.   

[Lucifer]

lol.

the bryson book which is made up of his short pieces/articles is hysterical, especially the one about statistics, where people injure themselves badly enough to require a visit to A&E... with their own clothing.