We were together a long time and were supposed to get married this year, so obviously his family means a lot to me to. That's the hard thing.
Yeah grieving over someone you actually get close to is hard. It is good that you actually enjoyed the company of his family. I am way too full of spite and hatred to do that I think.
Yeah I was with my first ex for 2+ years and we talked about marriage. I was friends with her brother and her parents loved me (even though I think they are worthless pieces of shit). I burn bridges, no fucking joke. Her parents and one of her friends each spotted me working at the mall. She showed up at my work and I didn't talk to her, like I promised her I wouldn't. She left crying for a change. If I found out her brother died, I would be sad (he warned me about her being a terrible person) but I wouldn't even call her. I couldn't show up at the funeral either, as I don't ever want to see her again. The fact that my family hates her as well, makes the circle complete. I have done the same with a couple of former friends pretty much. I rarely have an amicable seperation from someone. I just lose contact forever and never try to get back in touch or it is really ugly.