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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #390 on: May 26, 2007, 07:16:36 PM »
You are a Great Girlfriend 
 
When it comes to your guy, you're very thoughtful
But you also haven't stopped thinking of yourself
You're the perfect blend of independent and caring
You're a total catch - make sure your guy knows it too! 

Yeah, everything was fine until the...... "make sure your guy knows it too" bit....

Just keep on slurping up the semen, and he will.  :laugh:
Funny, but eventually they want to have some verbal confirmation of love rather than 'oral' confirmation  :(

Commitment troubles? Or something else?
I'm not good with emotional communication and probably appear to be distant or not committed I guess.

But, you don't have some kind of block against saying the three little words?
Exactly.  Plus if I am really overloaded emotionally and physically in a relationship, I can go into sensory overload and actually appear to be distancing myself, like spend less time with the person.  That then translates to them as loss of interest or non reciprocation of feelings.

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #391 on: May 26, 2007, 07:18:17 PM »
Are you at least able to explain this to them?

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #392 on: May 26, 2007, 07:30:15 PM »
Are you at least able to explain this to them?
That was before I got diagnosed.  Now things may be different, but I don't know...I still have the sensory overload thing.

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #393 on: May 26, 2007, 07:32:56 PM »
Are you at least able to explain this to them?
That was before I got diagnosed.  Now things may be different, but I don't know...I still have the sensory overload thing.

So, would you push someone out of bed?
What were the effects?

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #394 on: May 26, 2007, 07:39:55 PM »
Are you at least able to explain this to them?
That was before I got diagnosed.  Now things may be different, but I don't know...I still have the sensory overload thing.

So, would you push someone out of bed?
What were the effects?
Not reciprocate if someone is emotional...go blank, do something else, change subject, leave, hang up...which then unfortunately translates to someone like you are playing games or not interested or emotionally cruel when in fact, after I go or leave I can be highly emotional but have no words or blank out completely. 

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #395 on: May 26, 2007, 07:42:02 PM »
Does this work okay for you, if you're left alone?
For example, if you're upset, do you expect
someone to guess, and come comfort you?

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #396 on: May 26, 2007, 07:43:46 PM »
Are you at least able to explain this to them?
That was before I got diagnosed.  Now things may be different, but I don't know...I still have the sensory overload thing.

So, would you push someone out of bed?
What were the effects?
Not reciprocate if someone is emotional...go blank, do something else, change subject, leave, hang up...which then unfortunately translates to someone like you are playing games or not interested or emotionally cruel when in fact, after I go or leave I can be highly emotional but have no words or blank out completely. 
just don't shut me out, because i have the same problem as you.
and i may just run away as well.  it is easier that way.
Misunderstood.

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #397 on: May 26, 2007, 07:46:45 PM »
Does this work okay for you, if you're left alone?
For example, if you're upset, do you expect
someone to guess, and come comfort you?
Not sure if I'm answering what you are asking, but no, I'm probably best left alone.  But in that aloneness of processing how I'm feeling, I can be craving to be with that person, but at the same time almost turned off by the thought of seeing them...

Like when you eat too much ice cream! 

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #398 on: May 26, 2007, 07:48:01 PM »
Are you at least able to explain this to them?
That was before I got diagnosed.  Now things may be different, but I don't know...I still have the sensory overload thing.

So, would you push someone out of bed?
What were the effects?
Not reciprocate if someone is emotional...go blank, do something else, change subject, leave, hang up...which then unfortunately translates to someone like you are playing games or not interested or emotionally cruel when in fact, after I go or leave I can be highly emotional but have no words or blank out completely. 
just don't shut me out, because i have the same problem as you.
and i may just run away as well.  it is easier that way.
I'm not in love with you so you are safe. 

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #399 on: May 26, 2007, 07:48:59 PM »
Ice cream makes you not want to see
people? Damn, we'd definitely have a
problem then. :)

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #400 on: May 26, 2007, 07:51:08 PM »
Ice cream makes you not want to see
people? Damn, we'd definitely have a
problem then. :)
Yeah, but would it be the only problem?   :green:
Somehow, I think not!

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #401 on: May 26, 2007, 07:54:07 PM »
I think I understand the ice cream analogy.  You want a little ice cream, but the more that you have, the less you want.  Is that it?

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #402 on: May 26, 2007, 07:54:38 PM »
Ice cream makes you not want to see
people? Damn, we'd definitely have a
problem then. :)
Yeah, but would it be the only problem?   :green:
Somehow, I think not!

True. But I would enjoy putting sauce on it.

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #403 on: May 26, 2007, 07:57:12 PM »
I think I understand the ice cream analogy.  You want a little ice cream, but the more that you have, the less you want.  Is that it?
Yeah, you need time to digest it before you can eat it again...during that time, the thought of ice cream makes you feel sick, but it doesn't mean you don't love it.

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Re: Ask Eclair anything.
« Reply #404 on: May 26, 2007, 08:02:19 PM »
How much is too much ice cream?

I didn't think it was possible.