One thing about this site.

[Calandale]

I have to say this, but most of y'all seem to have
things together a hell of a lot better than many
over at WP. The mutual sobbing to one another
was making me feel like it was okay that I'm such
a fuck-up. I just hope that I can hold onto some
degree of trying, and not get caught up in even
more self-pity than I manage on my own.

[McGiver]

The mutual sobbing to one another
was making me feel like it was okay that I'm such
a fuck-up.

does this mean that you feel that over at WP they are encouraging of self pitty and enabling of you to wallow in your own self pity.

[Calandale]

I don't know. It definitely was hurting me to see so
many people in even worse position than I'm in, and
to feel so helpless to get them out of really trapped
conditions. Moreover, I seemed to have been slipping
into that mode of self-pity through empathizing too
much. Not that I'm not often that way anyhow, but
it wasn't helping me pull out of my funk.

Not sure I've got it licked, but at least seeing that
the majority of y'all seem to be supporting yourselves
helps tell me that my desires to just hide from the
world are NOT alright. My wife catered to those
desires, until they broke her emotionally, and much
as the outside world seems a living hell to me, I
probably have to learn to deal with it someday.

[Pyraxis]

  McJ, we are still fulfilling our original purpose.

[Calandale]

What, to attract spammy little birds and give them
a kick in the ass?

[Pyraxis]

Theoretically this place was founded as a training ground for empowerment as well as well as a place to hash out the conflicts from other boards. I'd been watching it disintegrate into a pub (there are plenty of threads debating it if you check the archives) but it's still good to see shit like this on occasion.

[Calandale]

The thing is, it's nothing anyone's really done.
I like the bawdy pointless atmosphere.
It's just nice the overwhelming
number of kids over at WP
I think. I was pretty
damned fucked
at that age,
but it's bad
for me to
see that
as ok.

[duncvis]

And that really is the point, and why some of us have been so determined not to allow tolerance of excessive wallowing and emoness to creep in here. Thats not what we're about. Yay for pointlessness! 

[Calandale]

How the hell do you prevent it?
I mean, other than just by being
mean?

[odeon]

How the hell do you prevent it?
I mean, other than just by being
mean?

Being mean is pretty much it. At least if you ask our recruiting chairman and his cronies.

[Calandale]

I knew that I couldn't just get away with whining, but I don't know that I much do
that anyhow. The biggest thing for me is just seeing that most of you have real
lives, I guess. I spent so many years hiding from the thought of it, and it still
terrifies me, but there just doesn't seem a way around it.

[renaeden]

The thing is, it's nothing anyone's really done.
I like the bawdy pointless atmosphere.
It's just nice the overwhelming
number of kids over at WP
I think. I was pretty
damned fucked
at that age,
but it's bad
for me to
see that
as ok.

You write in that funny pattern on purpose?

Yeah, I can say "I have a life" too, but I don't to the average person out there in the world. But it's my life, it's almost how I want it.

I spent so many years hiding from the thought of it, and it still
terrifies me, but there just doesn't seem a way around it.

There's also bits and pieces I'm still hiding from as well.
Just don't try and change everything all at once. It leads to overload. I've had experience with that.

[McGiver]

How the hell do you prevent it?
I mean, other than just by being
mean?

i really don't consider our actions as being mean spirited.
most offensive statement seem to be in jest.

and the rest of it is just working it out.
what i mean is that we don't bite our tongues.  and we don't necessarily go for the throat.  we just speak our minds.  i feel that is quite therapeutic.

[Pyraxis]

How the hell do you prevent it? I mean, other than just by being mean?

Indifference works just as well as meanness. I would say better.

Actually, I'm not entirely sure. Even a year after founding, there's still group momentum of a sort.

[Scrapheap]

The thing is, it's nothing anyone's really done.
I like the bawdy pointless atmosphere.
It's just nice the overwhelming
number of kids over at WP
I think. I was pretty
damned fucked
at that age,
but it's bad
for me to
see that
as ok.

Now you know my frustration with Aspie_for_the_Lord.

He was miserable because his church told him he couldn't marry outside of it and he didn't have the good sense to leave it.

He couldn't see past the fact that it was he who made the descision to stay there. He thought that "God" had told him to be in that church.

Fucking delusional people!!!