robertn
Has anyone here ever experienced online bullying?
I am a member of an aspie forum called Intensity, but I rather suspect many people there haven't actually got aspergers. The idea of the forum was to promote free speech, but the whole idea has failed and it has degenerated into a cesspool of personal insults and bitchiness.
Its really awful because some people just hide behind their mask and mock you, knowing full well they can get away with it. There is a karma system (read - a popularity scale). The in-crowd on the site just add karma (applaud) to each other at any opportunity. Some of them are at +70 or more, which is riduculous. They smite people they don't like (I am at -15), until the gaps between the members are so obvious that the in-crowd or "clique" as I like to call them, can kick out people to bully based on their low karma scores, knowing that few people will bother to defend them.
The whole business is getting me down. If I just leave, the thugs will think they have won, and I don't want to give them that satisfaction.
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Why am I seeing this?
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 12:31 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
Hmmm
Sounds like an interesting challenge - what's the site address?
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 12:39 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
yea i wanna join aswell, swing us those umm details will ya Cool
lets take on the challenge Nessa Very Happy
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 12:49 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
The reports I hear about other AS sites always make this one seem like some kind of utopia!
We're like some kind of aberration in all getting along so well (most of the time anyway)!
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 12:53 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
hmmmmmmmmmm so what does that make me then Nessa ?
am i more utopia or what ?
be frank, i am... honest Cool
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 1:03 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
(Nervous laugh) Well Tom, continual Utopia would be a bit dull so I suppose you 'shake it up' a bit
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thats a fair confirmation Very Happy
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You know most people who got bored of the place just moved on Rob. The non-uk members...who cares about their opinion, there totally irrelavant and have no barring on your life what so ever.
You just keep digging yourself a hole mate and your better off just moving on and not caring. I was cringing at your call out threads you really do need to know when to shut the F' up sometimes you really do cause your full of it and you completly lost the point and just tried to make wild accusations at people. The site is stale and dying and your just gonig to be an easy target going around like a headless chicken ranting at people.
There is an equal playing ground there if you want to confront and argue with people, its hardly there fault you suck at it. You are more asperger then half of them put together and its so blatent a few have nothing to do with aspergers anyway.
That whole Karma system no one takes seriously apart from you Rob.
GET A GRIP!
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 1:16 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
Don't be so harsh!
(I can't believe I'm saying that!)
And PS - give us a link!
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 1:27 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
I dont feel its neccesary to give you a link, ask mutate, omega female or Rob if you like. I ain't gonna be held responsible basically for you turning up there Razz
Im afraid Rob needs to come to a few realisations and he needs to come to it sooner rather than later or hes gonna get burned and i'd rather save him the anguish of learning the hard way. Not just on intensity but on his communication, on his reading of people and on life in general. No more social worker handling him with kid gloves attitude its time for cold harsh reality
This site is a friendly community and i can't believe he was shreiking around in terror before the cambridge meetup because of some morons on that intensity site he took seriously. But thats another issue entirely, infact when i learned of this it absolutely infuriated me that some people did that but then if your a sucker for it people will always be tempted
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 1:35 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
You make me sound like some kind of verbal semtex! I'm pretty sure they'd all take great delight in ignoring me anyway so there'd be nothing to worry about
I used to go on the Aspie Hangout Delphi forum and the Americans there had no problem posting over me; I'd have a rant about it, they'd acknowledge me then it would run on much as before
I never felt I was making a proper 'connection' with them. I don't think we speak the same language as Americans
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 1:38 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
ohh ok sorry laz i didnt realise i thought what was said was LAW. i guess now that the true light has been shown it seems like i sound bad now Sad
but i agree with what you said, some people need to take a step back sometimes and admire the view, not charge head first into a scenario.
and that stuff that went on earlier, there really was no need of it.
Rob, you probably mean well but you need to chill out every once in a while and listen to your heart and dont be rash.
and if someone tells you to "shut the F up" take them seriously, they're only being rude cos they dont want people to forget about it and carry on reguardless.
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ahhhhhh time to chill out sum more i think...
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 1:39 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
hows about we talk about this like adults in chat eh, and not get it banned again eh ?
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 1:41 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
I only want to read the posts anyway
Posting cold on a new board is the equivalent of walking into a pub youve never been in before and starting a conversation out of the blue with the first person you come across - it's too much like hard work and the length of time you'd have to hang around to get 'accepted' as one of the crowd is too great and might never happen anyway
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 1:43 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
and so what, i'd just carry on reguardless, if people dont like me all they need do is say it in a respectable manner and i'll let things be, but to be profane at me or insult my intelligence, well that has been known to provoke the Inner Badger Cool
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 7:40 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
nessa456 wrote: ‹ Select › ‹ Expand ›
Posting cold on a new board is the equivalent of walking into a pub youve never been in before and starting a conversation out of the blue with the first person you come across - it's too much like hard work and the length of time you'd have to hang around to get 'accepted' as one of the crowd is too great and might never happen anyway
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OK, I just thought that's a good quote to start my first post with. I've actually been here before (see some old entries by 'Till'), but that account is now listed as guest. Nothing to add to this conversation for the moment, except I agree that aspievillage was quite unique in being a forum for open and honest discussions without the need to hide yourself - I hope it's still (or rather, again) that way, there seem to be too many sites like the one mentioned above already.
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