but any shit that was said were peoples honest opinions.
you may have honest opinions of others as well....like you did about my parenting ability.
the difference is i addressed your concerns. i doidn't run away as an admission of guilt towards the accusations slung at me.
What accusations of guilt? You accused me of being emo, essentially... had a go at me for having a blog in the place where problems were supposedly allowed to be. That is why I left. Because I was pulled up AFTER I had moved all my emotional shit to the appropriate forum.
And yes, to me having sex is unclean...and showing my body is a sign I am a slut.
problems can be communicated anywhere.
i just got sick and tired of people telling you that everything was going to be alright, as i continued to watch you slide.
i decided to be frank with you. you couldn't handle it because you didn't want the truth.
that is my opinion.
and i think sluts are great.
I didn't want 'Its gonna be alrights', I wanted some guidance as to why I was getting obsessed and maybe some advice as to how best break away from it etc... I didn't need harshness that just left me feeling like even more of a loser... I am fully aware of my entrapment when I am in the midst of an obsession, but knowing it does not change it anymore than any other aspie can yank themselves away from an obsession with something else.I knew what I was doing, but it was incredibly hard to stop and has just taken time and willpower on my part. I still have feelings for the guy, but I am no longer hanging around him. I do send the odd letter, but he has not complained or said anything. I would have rather it had been put a little more gently and been realised how hard it was to pull myself away at the time.
The forums have replaced that particular person obsession now for the most part anyways. I managed to pull myself away but only when it hit me that I had to do something... meanwhile all I needed was either to be allowed to vent alone or less harsh advice, but then kid gloves are not allowed so it was a no win situation for me. I knew that even talking calmly about my situation I would be termed emo and ripped up.
I am a mixed bag. Some days I have moods like shit, others I am in a high. That is me. I am not jolly much of the time, that is also me, and I am not prone to faking, hence I do not believe I belonged on here to begin.
it seemed logical to me that you were able to overcome your binging and purging habits, after a harsh reality was conveyed to you. then, that logically, you would be able to stop some other bad habits if the realities were shown to you in a harsh enough light.
The binging and purging is something that took kidney failure 3 times and heart failure before I stopped. That was a different kind of obsession anyway, the way I see it, linked to an even greater obsession which is still here. (I am assuming you refer to the eating disorder I had/have since it has returned in a minor form ...I cannot think of any other binging and purging.)
My mother has always told me that I could never be made to do anything. I always had to do it when I was good and ready..in my own time. I suppose that is true but it doesn't stop me from looking for some sort of anchor while I am wrestling with my demons. It might not have been healthy in one sense, my obsession with that man, but it did get me out of the house and out and about... my current obsession of the forums has me back in the house 23/7 and reclusive. Which is healthier?
But in the end, I realise that only I can change it, no-one else can do it for me and I was not expecting that of anyone...just a little, I dunno...support or something but this isn't a support site and at the time this forum was the place I had come to feel most comfortable. When I am comfortable with a forum, I tend to share my stuff with that forum.
I will re register, but I absolutely cannot guarantee I will be always cheery and never mention my issues, tho I shall try not to. I just do not like to hide parts of myself as to me that is not being honest at all.
