i had to quote this before you began to feel more generous.
I interpretted this as a kind of gouge, because you felt the need to safeguard something I had said against the possibility of me flipflopping and removing it, from my having posted something after giving it very little forethought. I'm not flipflopping. I have progressively congealed and solidified my exterior against the damage a person like her can do to someone like me.
I was using a good amount of my resolve to not be rude to her, until the depth of her insults sunk in to me. Call me slow, but when she said I did not deserve to have my kids, I was done thinking about it and all my remaining malleability was hammered out, by that comment. The fact that you don't seem to understand that is the annoying thing, I guess. And if you do get that, then something along the lines of "What took you so long, asshole?" would be a better approach, with me, than an implication that I can't be trusted.