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Re: Sex education
« Reply #30 on: January 28, 2007, 12:34:50 PM »
Not only would I call that age appropriate, I call it funny as hell.

I never said it wasn't funny, but I was talking about a five year old.  If you think that's age appropriate I seriously pity any kids you do have in the future.

I think that is age appropriate.  Older would be better simply because they'd probably understand it better, but it wouldnt do any harm.

It's obvious that you don't know very many five year olds, if you think it would do no harm, dickhead!

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Re: Sex education
« Reply #31 on: January 28, 2007, 12:38:11 PM »
Not only would I call that age appropriate, I call it funny as hell.

I never said it wasn't funny, but I was talking about a five year old.  If you think that's age appropriate I seriously pity any kids you do have in the future.

I think that is age appropriate.  Older would be better simply because they'd probably understand it better, but it wouldnt do any harm.

That's the whole point of it being age appropriate- that they are able to fully understand.  Plus you have to wonder if teaching your kids a stereotype that may or may not be true as the truth is appropriate in the first place.
  You should be careful nom, with your talk of incest fantasies people might think showing a five year old child porn was some kind of grooming.

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Re: Sex education
« Reply #32 on: January 28, 2007, 12:41:29 PM »
Not only would I call that age appropriate, I call it funny as hell.

I never said it wasn't funny, but I was talking about a five year old.  If you think that's age appropriate I seriously pity any kids you do have in the future.

I think that is age appropriate.  Older would be better simply because they'd probably understand it better, but it wouldnt do any harm.

That's the whole point of it being age appropriate- that they are able to fully understand.  Plus you have to wonder if teaching your kids a stereotype that may or may not be true as the truth is appropriate in the first place.
  You should be careful nom, with your talk of incest fantasies people might think showing a five year old child porn was some kind of grooming.
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Re: Sex education
« Reply #33 on: January 28, 2007, 12:53:53 PM »

i am simply hedging my bets here DD.  i want my daughters to fall for a man who respects them.

and i would agree that the example i show them as far as how i treat my own wife (and them) is probably the determining factor as to which type of man they end up with.

I would have to agree with that!

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Re: Sex education
« Reply #34 on: January 28, 2007, 02:17:10 PM »

i am simply hedging my bets here DD.  i want my daughters to fall for a man who respects them.

and i would agree that the example i show them as far as how i treat my own wife (and them) is probably the determining factor as to which type of man they end up with.

I would have to agree with that!

Yeah. me, too. I just object to the context he started with.
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Re: Sex education
« Reply #35 on: January 28, 2007, 02:59:13 PM »

i am simply hedging my bets here DD.  i want my daughters to fall for a man who respects them.

and i would agree that the example i show them as far as how i treat my own wife (and them) is probably the determining factor as to which type of man they end up with.

I would have to agree with that!

Yeah. me, too. I just object to the context he started with.
in your experience i am sure that you have seen alot of men who are not respectful to women.  each nationality will be represented i am sure.
but, what has your observations showed you would be the best chice, if you were trying to hedge your bets that your girls would end up with someone who would respect them?
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Re: Sex education
« Reply #36 on: January 28, 2007, 03:11:02 PM »
I think I posted this elsewhere on here, but I was offered sex in in 3rd grade but was in a residential with conservative protestants at the time who weren't keen on it.  next year (5th grade) I got period-related sex ed.  I think it was offered again at some point before I went in another residential in middle school (7th or 8th grade or so, maybe 9th- it's complicated).  In that residential most of the girls were already sexually active so our education was extremely explicit.

Additionally, my mom has always been OK with talking with me about anything.  I remember at least as early as 4th grade she told me I could ask her anything and she'd tell me what I needed to know.

All that period prep was anticilmatic, of course, and sex ed never quite prepared me for my first experience, but I think if I were physically normal I'd have been all set- I was ready to be very safe by the time I was sexually active.  (My mom even went so far as to get the pill for me- I couldn't get it because I wasn't mesntruating and the docs didn't know what was up with that.  So my mom had it prescribed for herself and gave it to me- ironic because she'd had a hysterectomy, but apparently the pill is useable for ovulation-related issues and not just birth control.)

I said age appropriate Peter  ::)

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Doesn't that frighten you?

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Re: Sex education
« Reply #37 on: January 28, 2007, 05:34:45 PM »

i am simply hedging my bets here DD.  i want my daughters to fall for a man who respects them.

and i would agree that the example i show them as far as how i treat my own wife (and them) is probably the determining factor as to which type of man they end up with.

I would have to agree with that!

Yeah. me, too. I just object to the context he started with.
in your experience i am sure that you have seen alot of men who are not respectful to women.  each nationality will be represented i am sure.
but, what has your observations showed you would be the best chice, if you were trying to hedge your bets that your girls would end up with someone who would respect them?

By giving her the tools she needs to make her own intelligent choices, showing her that the world is not black and white, and assuring her that as long as she is truly happy, I will be pleased with her choices.

The whole problem with this inclination of yours is that it is a Fool's Errand. Too much of your effort will be spent on half truths and trying to make up for the mistakes we have made. You can not hedge your bets, in the way you are trying to, by marking illusory divisions between people (which may make sense to you) and disqualifying a few groups. Our job as parents is teaching them what we know (Facts! Don't offer too much of our own tainted interpretations of how the indisputable facts came to be!) and teaching them how to learn on their own, from their own explorations.

The important thing to remember is that, we can not predict whether our daughters will end up with an abusive jerk (because they come in all shapes and sizes, including tempting and "perfect" and abusive behavior may spontaneously erupt in an otherwise perfect person), but with a high degree of self-respect and a strong sense of self-worth, our daughters will be more able to break free from a relationship that is injuring them, whether the abuse is physical or emotional. Spending all our time with lessons about which divisions of people are more likely to be "wrong" for her is a waste of her attention span. The more effort spent building her self esteem and preparing her for accepting and shedding failures then moving on past them, the better off we will all be. But what the fuck do I know? I'm a rookie at the parenting thing!

I have a long way to go. Today, I was fielding questions about maturing, from a six year old's perspective. (This is a big deal! She has a hard time with the concept of 'growing up'. It scares the hell out of her!) She asked me today when she "will have bumps on her chest", after drawing a picture of her family, including the dog and mommie's noticeable "bumps".

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Re: Sex education
« Reply #38 on: January 29, 2007, 09:06:33 AM »
I said age appropriate Peter  ::)

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Doesn't that frighten you?

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Re: Sex education
« Reply #39 on: February 06, 2007, 02:28:28 PM »
 I thought it was adequate.  We actually talked about birth control when I lived in VA.  I have no idea what I would've been taught if my parents moved to NC earlier, but it would have been much more conservative.   I'm sorry, but abstinence only education is a joke, and this is coming from a 24 year old virgin.

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Re: Sex education
« Reply #40 on: February 06, 2007, 02:37:56 PM »
i'm a 24 year old virgin too! and they basically handed out condoms to us and people made balloon animals out of them. :P
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Re: Sex education
« Reply #41 on: February 06, 2007, 02:42:04 PM »
I'd probably come prematurely if I wore a condom -- in a good way.

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Re: Sex education
« Reply #42 on: February 06, 2007, 02:43:18 PM »
how can there be a good way for that? :P
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Re: Sex education
« Reply #43 on: February 06, 2007, 02:45:36 PM »
how can there be a good way for that? :P

I'd probably like the feel of elastic pressing onto my manhood.


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Re: Sex education
« Reply #44 on: February 07, 2007, 12:53:15 PM »
i'm a 24 year old virgin too! and they basically handed out condoms to us and people made balloon animals out of them. :P
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