(Physical force doesnt need to be used)
Odeon, I was responding to this, from HG and I should have quoted it properly, to begin with, since I misquoted the words, from memory. I'm not disagreeing with you. I don't spank my children, anymore. I have in the past, five times for my son and three times for my daughter. I honestly can't say it did anything good, except "change the subject" of what they had done, at the time.
I had to use a large part of my body weight to keep my son from destroying an area in a store, back in November. I'm certain that most people witnessing the event thought I was abusing my child, but he did not hurt himself the way I used to hurt myself and we got out of the store without breaking anything. I did not hit him, either.The only casualty was a towel display that was kicked as I carried him to the car.
When he turns seventeen, I'll be sixty and he will be much stronger than I will be, if he is anything like me (actually he is exactly like me!). I will no longer be able to pick his wiggly ass up and manhandle him out to the car. I will have to come up with some other way to restrain him, if this continues. Thank goodness it is a rare event. I can remember having some episodes as a young teen and I really can't remember how my mom dealt with it, but I do remember being hit a lot (and being told to "straighten up") and never understanding why. I was mostly passive as a child and did not become violent towards bulllies until I was a freshman in high school.
In my son I see, not really violence, but overly aggressive behavior starting already. He used to be more passive. When he heard something contrary to his will he used to cover his ears, but lately he has been attacking the offfending mouth, directly. As a kid, I had my ass spanked a lot and I was not violent until post puberty. He has had only a few spankings and he is becoming
violent, already. Honestly, I'm not convinced there is a connection, in this case, but something is altering his MO, rapidly. It is becoming a little worrying, to me.