Is intensity growing up at last?

[renaeden]

I recently turned 38 and agree with Icequeen's statement.

['andersom']

On some points I was very grown up always, on other points it is never going to happen. I did mature in some things though.

[renaeden]

^Like managing money? Taking care of offspring?

Money managing is something I have become better at.

[Graelwyn]

39, almost 40 

and I still giggle at farts and enjoy practical jokes.

['andersom']

^Like managing money? Taking care of offspring?

Money managing is something I have become better at.

Managing money never was a problem. For my own sake I am really stingy, for others pretty generous, but I am always able to pay my bills, if I am the only one with access to the money. I did have the caring bit from the start too.

But, forms and paperwork I am slowly maturing in. I'll try more and more to do them without help, and if it freaks me out, I now will get help, instead of deciding to let it be if it would bring me gain, and freak out completely if it would cost me, if I did not do things right.

Also maturing a bit when it comes to letting go.

Don't think I will mature in humour, in sillyness, and in becoming a really regulated person when it is about bedtimes and such.

@ Graelwyn, I am ten years ahead of you, and I am famous for my farts. 

[odeon]

I'm not a grownup, but I am getting older.

[Walkie]

Hmm. I regard everybody who's posted on this page as grown-up ( well, compared with your average troll, at least)
But then i clearly have an an idiosynchratic view of what "grown-up" means" *chuckle*

eg, "Grown up" to me means not giving a damn about whether other people perceive you as grown-up.  Not giving a shit for "dignity" . But caring very much about the impact of your actions instead.

I've noticed that NTs often apply a polar opposite definition. (That would be on account of their superior empathy, I guess. )

-Walkie

['andersom']

Hmm. I regard everybody who's posted on this page as grown-up ( well, compared with your average troll, at least)
But then i clearly have an an idiosynchratic view of what "grown-up" means" *chuckle*

eg, "Grown up" to me means not giving a damn about whether other people perceive you as grown-up.  Not giving a shit for "dignity" . But caring very much about the impact of your actions instead.

I've noticed that NTs often apply a polar opposite definition. (That would be on account of their superior empathy, I guess. )

-Walkie

 

By your definition I've been a grown up for a very long time. To the massive embarrassment of a toddler who did not want to walk outside with her mother.... Thank goodness she outgrew that. She now does not mind being seen with me.

[Graelwyn]

^Like managing money? Taking care of offspring?

Money managing is something I have become better at.

Managing money never was a problem. For my own sake I am really stingy, for others pretty generous, but I am always able to pay my bills, if I am the only one with access to the money. I did have the caring bit from the start too.

But, forms and paperwork I am slowly maturing in. I'll try more and more to do them without help, and if it freaks me out, I now will get help, instead of deciding to let it be if it would bring me gain, and freak out completely if it would cost me, if I did not do things right.

Also maturing a bit when it comes to letting go.

Don't think I will mature in humour, in sillyness, and in becoming a really regulated person when it is about bedtimes and such.

@ Graelwyn, I am ten years ahead of you, and I am famous for my farts. 

I still struggle with controlling my money and paperwork, I have a bad habit of casting it aside and forgetting about it, or putting it off repeatedly. I don't know what it is about paperwork, but it just seems to instantly put me in an irritable mood.

Also, is the issue with regulating bedtimes and the like a common aspie issue?
I seem to always end up getting stuck in a routine of staying up all night, and missing half the day or worse.
I get really frustrated about it, as to me, I should be perfectly capable of controlling when I do things.

[Genesis]

GROW UP!

  NEVER!!!!!

[odeon]

Hmm. I regard everybody who's posted on this page as grown-up ( well, compared with your average troll, at least)
But then i clearly have an an idiosynchratic view of what "grown-up" means" *chuckle*

eg, "Grown up" to me means not giving a damn about whether other people perceive you as grown-up.  Not giving a shit for "dignity" . But caring very much about the impact of your actions instead.

I've noticed that NTs often apply a polar opposite definition. (That would be on account of their superior empathy, I guess. )

-Walkie

I've never given a damn about whether people perceive me as a grown-up.

[odeon]

GROW UP!

  NEVER!!!!!

Go to your room, young man. We'll talk about this later.

[Genesis]

GROW UP!

  NEVER!!!!!

Go to your room, young man. We'll talk about this later.

Does my mind palace count as my own room?

[Jack]

GROW UP!

  NEVER!!!!!

Go to your room, young man. We'll talk about this later.

Generational change. Kids these days stay in their room because there's so much cool stuff in there. Go outside, is the proper order now.

[Graelwyn]

GROW UP!

  NEVER!!!!!

Go to your room, young man. We'll talk about this later.

Generational change. Kids these days stay in their room because there's so much cool stuff in there. Go outside, is the proper order now.

Or lock them in a smelly bathroom for a few hours as an alternative.