The normal anyone will recieve with a leave or stay thread is "Go if you want, stay if you want, we don't give a shit"
Bad way to feel out people's value in you. They will not be guilted into making you stay nor making your possible stay easier. That works in suppot sites and this is not a support site.
Ironically I have found the kind of support here that works for me.
Here is my comment on you and your interactions here. I met you two years ago. For the most part then you were a pain in the arse. You annoyed shit out of me. There is probably 2 or 3 of us here who remember you back then and I do not think anyone of us will say that you have come in leaps and bounds in how you interact with people and how you are less self-involved and less confusing.
Unfortunately no one except for a couple of us have seen you three years agoi. They do not see the marked improvement.
The thing is to moderate how you post if you are wanting everyone to join in. Consider what others may like. It is not anexcuse to talk to yourself so you have to consider others.
No point considering "I won't get banned for this, so I may as well do it (and a lot)" It does not have to be necessarily banworthy to piss people off. Posting hitload of the same emoticon over and over, porn clips, bouncing tits, lols, Besides, my asshole hurts, and the like, when repeated over and over and used as mere filler for a unanswered thread, do not actually do anything but irritate.
Less reliance on emoticon and videos and the like to answer posts that peopelare trying to interact with, can help. When someone comes in and reads that the answer to a thread that they put their opinion on, in hope to start a dialogue, was answered by a handful of emoticons and Besides, my asshole hurts after it and then the next half a page as derailed further with people telling you to go fuck yourself., it does kill that potential dialogue. Maybe looking at what they are writing and if you thiunk you can contribute menaingfully, then answer, if you can't see if the next thread you can.
I think that is the way to do it. Don't be afraid to start your own thread or answer someone's question and ask your own at the same time. It gets activity and dialogue and sharing of communication going. It doesn't mean people won't tell each other to go fuck ourselves but at least there is a good reason and then the callouts that may ensue will be pointed and for good reason.
As long as i am spectator i will be happy.
phobia.
