What it looked like to me (and I am sure i am not alone) is that there was a fair bit of drama here, like there is from time to time, and you and a number of others used the unsettled time as an opportunity to try to recruit members over there, and portray Spasticity as a better alternative to I2. It was to be a better place for the better members, the younger members, the cooler members and be all the best of this site, all contained in your site. Your members on there talked it up for you too, in the same way.
With the initial attempts not driving most active members away from here and over there, and activity here not dwindling to a standstill, you started to backtrack saying that Spasticity was "for everyone".
Now you are saying "My site is not active as I want. Spasticity is set up for (not cool or younger Aspies as you tried to promote before) Aspies not invested in haunty callout wank like you get on here....oh by the way, can you guys help my site?"
Fail Shleed. Fail.
Maybe look to memberships at other sites, and in your recruitment efforts do not try to tell the site members that their site is shit and you are only interested in the smartest, coolest, best looking, youngest, or whatever the fuck you may want to say to talk up your quiet little site.
Just a suggestion.