All I can say is about the stuff between me and binty. That got worse because she misinterpreted what I was saying as me having a dig. When actually I wasn;t. I knew there was a big risk she would see it like that, but thought I hd a duty as a "friend" to point out what I thought (obviously wrongly) would help her.
I don't see how what I said could be seen as an insult tbh. It might not have been what she wanted to hear, but it was meant with good intentions. It would have been a lot easier for me to either say nothign at all, or (if I didn't give a shit about her or was a crap friend, like she says), then for me to troll her mercilessly. I chose to try and help her see that she was fallign back into her old ways of reacting to shit.
It backfired on ME, but actually maybe it did work in the end, as she seemed to have brightened up a bit the next day instead of getting really emotional all over the board like I thoguht she was going towards. And she also seems to be taking a break from here instead of deleting her account or having a meltdown. Both of those things were what I was worried she was going towards and what I was actaully genuinely trying to steer her away from
I think I do know her quite well (despite the fact that I'm sure she'd claim I don't if she reads this) and, far from being an ass and making things worse for her, I think I actually fucked MYSELF over trying to help her
Maybe the only people who'll agree with me here are those in my "clique"