Thanks Pyraxis.
Sometimes I don't know if what I say will make her upset or not. She strikes me as being very borderline but she says she only meets 3 criteria.
Not often that I think "borderline". But what you described, including the way she treats the people wanting to help her and discarding all knowledge that is different from what she wants to hear, 'borderline' was my first thought.
I just read Ren's description. Maybe wose than borderline. Maybe NPD even ?
In any case , Ren, that's emotional blackmail, and totally shitty behaviour. Please don't let yourself be hurt by it.
Thanks all, for reading what I wrote.
I think the key thing is, back when I self harmed, I never said I would stop. I just did when I ended up in hospital in 2013. I haven't done anything since.
But with my friend, she kept sending me texts after she self harmed saying she would never do it again. After about 5 times I stopped believing her and told her so. Then she got all upset about my lack of support, saying I was the only one that felt that way.
This week I am not visiting her in hospital as she has severe conjunctivitis. How she got that in hospital, I don't know.