I'm seriously considering not going to birthday parties at my sister's place any more. I'm starting to hate those parties more and more so. Generally I try not to use my hyperacusis as an excuse but their living room is like total hell for me when it's crowded with people. The amount of noise of folks chit chatting loudly (in order to be heard over the other voices talking) is undoable to take for me. I'm not a very talkative person normally but that room makes go almost completely silent.
On the one hand.. ja, I really want to quit going there when others are invited also.. for ja, read above, I frikkin' hate it there.. but on the other hand.. these are birthdays of young kiddos. Me not showing up at theirs, which I have done before, doesn't feel right. I love them.. and they love me too.. and uncles should go to b.d. parties of the children of their sister (-s/brother(-s)), right?
Mentioned this to my mother this afternoon (at my nephew's party/he turned 10 years old) and she said; 'do it for the kiddos, C.' 'Just do it for them.' Mmmm, this is becoming, more and more so, a dilemma.
I don't want to be the uncle that these (three) kids only quite rarely see and, he who, never visit their birthday parties any more. There's almost no middle ground to tread here, is there? Think I should talk to my sister about this, soon.