Post what you are thinking right now, part two

[Queen Victoria]

When will you get it through your thick skull that you are not Superwoman?  You're 62 years old, for pete's sake.  Start asking for help.

['andersom']

It was only one beer. 

[Adam]

My mate found out tonight that his friend got hit by a car and is on life support. They're flying over to Oregon to be with his family befofre they turn it off. Fucking messed up. Guy was about our age . Can't imagine what his parents are going thru.

I never know wtf to say when shit like this happens. I was on the phone to him when he found out. His mum was going hysterical. In his early 20s too, ended just like that.

["couldbecousin"]

My mate found out tonight that his friend got hit by a car and is on life support. They're flying over to Oregon to be with his family befofre they turn it off. Fucking messed up. Guy was about our age . Can't imagine what his parents are going thru.

I never know wtf to say when shit like this happens. I was on the phone to him when he found out. His mum was going hysterical. In his early 20s too, ended just like that.

 I don't know what to say either, "sorry" doesn't begin to cover it. 

[Adam]

Yeah that's the obvious response people use for things like this, but I always try and stop myself saying it because it just doesnt sound enough does it. I always feel pathetic saying that, but never know what else to say either

I guess there's nothing you CAN say tho really. Not for something like that. it's not gonna bring him back is it?

["couldbecousin"]

Yeah that's the obvious response people use for things like this, but I always try and stop myself saying it because it just doesnt sound enough does it. I always feel pathetic saying that, but never know what else to say either

I guess there's nothing you CAN say tho really. Not for something like that. it's not gonna bring him back is it?

 No, I just say sorry because I think it's the least useless thing to say. 

[Zippo]

Yeah that's the obvious response people use for things like this, but I always try and stop myself saying it because it just doesnt sound enough does it. I always feel pathetic saying that, but never know what else to say either

I guess there's nothing you CAN say tho really. Not for something like that. it's not gonna bring him back is it?

 No, I just say sorry because I think it's the least useless thing to say. 

like i mentioned in another thread my dads brother died... turns out the dad i got pissed off with tryed calling me on my cell several times to let me know the day after he failed to answer my calls [ive no signal at my house]

anyways rather than saying sorry i said if he needs to talk about it and is to cheep to pay a shrink he can give me a call... he laughed... its the first time i have heard him laugh in yeard

[Psychophant]

Yeah that's the obvious response people use for things like this, but I always try and stop myself saying it because it just doesnt sound enough does it. I always feel pathetic saying that, but never know what else to say either

I guess there's nothing you CAN say tho really. Not for something like that. it's not gonna bring him back is it?

 No, I just say sorry because I think it's the least useless thing to say. 

It is. 

[Squidusa]

My mate found out tonight that his friend got hit by a car and is on life support. They're flying over to Oregon to be with his family befofre they turn it off. Fucking messed up. Guy was about our age . Can't imagine what his parents are going thru.

I never know wtf to say when shit like this happens. I was on the phone to him when he found out. His mum was going hysterical. In his early 20s too, ended just like that.

Omg.

I'm so sorry to hear that , thoughts with your friend. 

[El]

My mate found out tonight that his friend got hit by a car and is on life support. They're flying over to Oregon to be with his family befofre they turn it off. Fucking messed up. Guy was about our age . Can't imagine what his parents are going thru.

I never know wtf to say when shit like this happens. I was on the phone to him when he found out. His mum was going hysterical. In his early 20s too, ended just like that.

=(

"I'm sorry for your loss" exists as a way of saying "I care, even though I can't make it better."  It's better than saying nothing.  (I learned that the hard way once.)

[QuirkyCarla]

When my cousins lost their father, I really didn't know what to say. I felt like anything I could say was probably already said by others. I actually cried a lot myself after he died, even though I wasn't that close to him. It was more because I felt for my cousins and what they were going through. I think they liked that they weren't the only ones crying at his memorial service though.

I did e-mail my cousin and explain why I hadn't said anything, and she said it was better than the ones who talk TOO much, and you just want to tell to shut up.

[Adam]

^ that's what I worry about. "I'm sorry for your loss" just sounds generic and lacking in feeling

I know it's NOT necessarily lacking in feeling, but because it's the general thing said, automatically, it feels like it isn't worth anything

[Binty]

People always get awkward and feel they have to apologise, whenever I have to say that my dad died last year.  I usually just wave away their apologies, say it's fine and that we weren't close to get them to shut up   Not about to discuss my feelings about my dead father to someone who's only an acquaintance.

[odeon]

Thinking about people who die too young.

[Adam]

It is Transgender Day of Remembrance today

I'm gonna have some pasta

Just shared an ice cream with the cat and the dog