Well, the Amber "exboyfriend drama" reached a peak last night. Amber had cut off "Human", his legal name. And so he decided to call Carla and left a rather threatening message on her voice mail. Not wanting to "escalate things". So against our better judgement, we urged Amber to meet with him and speak to him.....on the following conditions. A) They will meet in a public place...the local YMCA open waiting room, B) he had 15 minutes to plead his case and then she would go to her Kung-Fu class. Which he said ok. And I would drive her there and stay until he arrived and was speaking with her and then I would leave to go outside. Well, in a nutshell, we got there, he showed up and demanded Amber speak with him in a PRIVATE conference room. Amber said an emphatic NO! That she would only talk with him in the open lobby with witnesses and all that. He would not isolate her. I went outside as I heard her tell "Human" (aka David Montenegro)(Yes, I am doxxing him, but his name is readily available on line.) it's meet here or nothing. 10 minutes later I got a text from her to "Get in here". Apparently he started to be threatening to Amber and the staff intervened. The director of the Y and a coach took him upstairs to tell him to back off or leave. The desk clerk was consoling Amber who was seriously distraught. The staff told Amber that she did everything right. They told him to leave...immediately. They came back down stairs and he starts bullying her to talk with him privately, by then the Sensei or Kung Fu Teacher comes out and stand there as the female coach and female admin. stand between him and us. Now the teacher stands there very quietly, arms crossed and keeps his eye on "human". I feel myself getting more and more angry with him as I start to loudly say, "leave us alone, and go away" more or less. And I see this glint in "humans" eye that he loves seeing me escalate. The same look on my "mothers" face when she nearly pushed my buttons to almost attack her during the big rift years ago. I manage to ratchet myself down and repeatedly say, "go away and never speak to us again, it's over." Then he starts in on me by saying lets talk, again, in a private room. I say NO. human keeps repeating the same thing over and over again. Finally, the staff tells him in no uncertain terms to LEAVE the Y premises. The Kung Fu teacher, then takes him outside for about 10-15 minutes to "speak" with him. The upshot is, that "human" finally was persuaded to get on his bike and leave. (He has no car) Amber wants to forget class and go home. Oh, but, before that, she goes into the class room during the confrontation to get away from him, "human" follows her. THEN the Teacher/Sensei takes him outside. She tries to do the class, but, she is too upset to continue. So the desk clerk, who has been very supportive and I talk and I go out to the car to get my book to read. I am offered an escort, which I decline, I am not afraid of this jerktard. I come back in and proceed to call the police to report the incident. As I am on the phone, Amber and the teacher come out, and it's obvious...she is coming home. The Kung Fu teacher is supportive and we leave.
I think this is the end of the issue......NOT. At eleven at night, a police officer comes by, rings the bell and presents us with a form called, "Trespass Notice" forbidding us to come near "humans" residence.....I start to laugh, the poor cop, who knows "human" very well looks embarrassed as he explains the form. Apparently. "human" went directly to the police station to get this order in a fit of pique. Now this is no problem to me and Amber, we sign it, the cop gives us our copies as we give our side of what happened. "human" hates cops and he is always attacking them...(I will spare you the details) , so this just hits me as a petty and vindictive last ditch dig at us. Carla and Amber have blocked his number on their phones. So I go to bed and Carla who is still awake asks me what happened. I give her the details and she starts to laugh with me at his petty and vindictive little swipe. It's been nearly 24 hours and we haven't heard a peep more from him. I signed up for the Kung Fu class with Amber as something I could us myself for mental discipline and control.
If this sounds confusing to you, put yourself in my shoes living this shit. Either way, he is out of our lives and we are in control of the situation.