I can't see many (if any) people agreeing with me on this, but in an ideal world, all children would be raised like this.
But don't you agree that for the vast majority of people (99.999%) their gender isn't a problem? And if it isn't a problem for them, why not teach them to embrace it?
Agreed. I think this is just setting them up for many future problems that they would not have had otherwise. Raising them to do what they want regardless and be accepting of it of gender would be a better option. One of my boys took dance the other cooking lessons and he loves to cook neither bothered me and it was encouraged because it was what they liked even though they tend to be traditionally more of a girl thing.
This is what I think. Toddlers have few identifying roles at a time that they need them. Being a boy or a girl is important to their determining who they are. If my son grows up gay, or effeminate, or a girl, I could care less. So long as he is happy. Trying to raise him as a third gender option "it" just seems cruel and possibly harmful.
But is that identity really a good thing?
identity itself, yes, definitely. But I see parts of the "boy" indentity being thrust upon my brother, which I feel uncomfortable about.
btw I don't mean thrust upon him by my family, I mean by school, media etc. No matter how well you try to raise a kid, they will come under different influences based solely on whether they have a penis or a vagina. Which is wrong imo