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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #630 on: May 01, 2011, 03:58:57 AM »
For reproductive purposes, the definition is strictly binary and clear-cut. That definition is something I accept, because it conforms quite well to how the human race reproduces, reproduction being the main reason to why we are here.

I disagree, but I don't have the evidence to support me at this point.

Where do those who can't reproduce fall? Are they neither man nor woman? Your definitions and expectations are narrow, and thus follows your mind.

As I tried to explain earlier, mistakes happen all the time when nature does its thing. I would say that the intentions are what define the result, not the result itself. They aren't my definitions, though. It's basic human biology and thus I do have the evidence supporting my views. It's all over teh interwebs if you care to look.

The English language is notorious for being less than perfectly adequate in describing how things are.

But how come I am not to fall into the "mistakes" category? I have a female mind, but a male body. And there is a move to define transsexuality in the same category at intersex,

both from professionals,
http://oiiaustralia.com/media/articles/transsexuals-intersexed-individuals/

and others,
http://www.thescavenger.net/isgd/trans-as-intersex-crossing-the-line-56934.html



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If you think that is disrespectful then the same will apply equally to you.
You'll have to explain that one to me.
You are trying to force me to use your definitions, or else I am being disrespectful. I know, I know, you aren't literally "forcing" me, but if I insist on the "he" as defined on basic human biology and not some 5-sex theory from an early nineties essay or whatever, or because that's how you feel now, it is me being disrespectful.


There is two arguments here;

Definitions and Pronouns.

Human biology is anything but basic. And we all know that there is no such thing as normal, this is especially so in biology. There are binary categories based on human reproductive organs. And while gender is mental and sex is physical, our perceptions of gender often take their cues from the sex. The pronouns we use are based largely on perception of gender and social interaction. Most people currently perceive me as female and socialise as such.

I feel you're being disrespectful of me when you misgender me in the way you have because it is essentially stripping me of my mental identity. Who I am, and who I see myself to be. When you call me he and refer to me as male, you're essentially saying that how I view myself is wrong. And that really hurts.

I know it can be hard for non-trans people to understand, my parents have a hard time with it, but being trans isn't a decision. I didn't decided to be a girl. I am a girl, I was just born with the wrong biology. Science doesn't currently fully understand how it happens, but there is some talk of it being wrong hormones whilst in the womb, or some sort of genetic trigger. I don't really know. All I do know is that I am a girl. When I was trying to male it was such a shallow hollow existence, and now I feel full of life, actually alive. So to call me male is to say that I should go back to that hollow existence, and that being a girl, being alive is wrong.

That hurts, and it's disrespects me and my right to live a full and happy life.

I have two questions.

First, when the fuck are you actually going? It was six days what feels like 10 days ago. I know this is not completely right and time has been dragging with your every post. But seriously how long are you going to be entertaining us with your mindless waffle.

Secondly, If i was to say I "felt" like a Pygmy and even though I was not born that way nor had any genetic predisposition, but "felt it", would I actually be feeling like a Pygmy or just my understanding (obviously limited) as to what a Pygmy ought to feel like?
When you talk about being mentally a girl, are you in fact saying that your brain is already wired in and set as a girl's brain and your body is all set as male. Or are you saying that you have only got what your concept of what a girl is and identify with that concept which may or may not actually be the same thing?
How would you actually know one way or another?

Let's go another step further. If you were mistakenly under the assumption that your identification was in fact because you were a girl in a man's body but it came to light that your identification was not actually of the concept of girl but rather a misguided and ill-informed concept of what a girl was then would demanding someone call you a she or a woman actually be correct or not? Would it be respectful.
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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #631 on: May 01, 2011, 05:35:39 AM »
^Yes it has those disadvantages but the graphics are excellent.

Not to mention, the gameplay is exceptional in quality, you can literally do anything as long as you respect the game physics. But no hax is yet to found to violate the physics of it.

The only thing lacking is music in the background and cool sound effects.

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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #632 on: May 01, 2011, 05:49:57 AM »
Correct me if I'm wrong but isn't chimerism in humans a kind of a mixture of both sexes, with the signs being anything from "hitchhiker's thumb" in one hand and a "normal" in the other, to ambiguous genitalia? IMO it is one of the cases where nature had problems along the way, something I have mentioned in earlier posts. I would think that with chimerism exact terminology is more important than ever, and the 5-way thing GA offered a couple of posts back wouldn't make explaining chimerism easier at all. Not sure it would even be relevant, tbh.

In your posts here and here you simplify it as people being "born to" one gender or the other - either that or something "psychologically" went wrong. But you don't account for the possibility that one's feeling of self-identification might be the first indication of an abnormality. Here you say your problem is with giving people special treatment, here you say it's because it takes a conscious effort, but here you say you don't hate groups, you hate individuals. So, what, you won't expend conscious effort on special treatment unless it's special hatred?  :zoinks:

My post about individuals was a bit tongue-in-cheek but above all made in a context, and others (Soph?) called me out on it, and quite fairly at that because groups such as Nazis provided me enough thought to see that I posted that one without thinking it through. The special treatment comment was specifically made in reference to not being allowed to joke about trans people, something that I believe was clear in my post and the context in which it was posted. In no way does it defeat my basic approach, about conscious effort.

I don't specifically account for one's feelings being the first sign of a problem, no, because I wasn't discussing chimerism or in any way detailing the causes of the problems. In other words, I wasn't talking about diagnosing problems.

Did you have a point with all this, Pyraxis, or were you just trying to make us follow links for fun? IMO I've made my stance very clear.

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But seriously, my problem was with the bits later on when you started saying that trans people were trying to shove pronouns down your throat and you refused to redefine what a man and a woman were. That hundreds of years of evolutionary science backed up your position, and that intentions (who's intentions? Mother nature's? God's?)

I believe I have consistently used "nature".

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were what defined the result. I don't think calling people herms, merms and ferms is the answer either, but - what are you worried about? That somebody like GA would flipflop and want to be called a male one day, a female the next, male the next, and back to female again? I get that that would be ridiculous, but since a transition is a once-off, I don't see the big deal.

No, I believe you don't. I do, however, because I am a firm believer in well-defined and consistent vocabulary, and what A et al are saying just isn't consistent. It's what they want, for all kinds of reasons, but it's not well-defined and it's not consistent. I'm saying that GA was born male and while he in later years has been working towards becoming a woman, that pronoun would, in my mind, not adequately describe the result because a "woman" is a "human female", biologically and genetically speaking, and that's not just the case.

It doesn't get easier for me to consider such an inaccuracy when people like Rissy come here and basically say I'm trolling or disrespectful because my stance differs from theirs.

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I fail to see why chimerism is relevant here. If I've read up correctly on the subject, transgenderism is not about chimerism at all. There aren't any detectable signs, nothing like an erring chromosome, no ambiguous genitalia, nothing like that.

How many of the people exploring transgenderism have actually had their sex chromosomes tested? Has GA?

See Ren's answer for GA.

As for the rest, you are missing part of my point. I am basically indifferent. If somebody I meet appears to be a woman and says she is, I am not going to require proof or doubt the statement or anything. I will accept it as a fact, according to the definitions I have outlined.

If, later, somebody shows that the woman in question is biologically a man, I would most likely remain indifferent and continue with the pronouns offered to me at that earlier point. I don't really care, see. My comments here are all about terminology and cases like GA's where I seem to be required to change my pronouns (that have been accepted and OK for years) or else I'm disrespectful and included in some fancy *new* definition using a word that I had to look up to know it exists in current urban terminology (but not, yet, in a printed dictionary).

You seem hell-bent on showing that I must have ulterior motives, that I'm really a bigot of some new and exciting definition, but I just don't think that is the case.

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I don't think people should have to provide genetic test results before asking people to refer to them by their identified gender.

Neither do I. See above.

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Besides, even that wouldn't account for cases of XX males and XY females. True, there are cases where there's no obvious physiological basis. But I don't see any good reason not to accept a person's self-identification. In ten years, if Kayleigh had fully transitioned and was using a female identity everywhere, would you still insist on clinging to your first impression and calling her a male because she was unable to have a baby?

I have already answered that, about GA specifically and about trans people in general.

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What pronouns are used for chimeras? As I understand, the majority of chimeras go through life without ever realising what they are. The pronoun used is the one defined at birth, I should think. As for the cases where it's not clear, I don't know. I'm interested in finding out.

I don't know a set of official rules. The Intersex Society of North America recommends that a baby be given a gender assignment at birth, whichever is more likely, but no corrective surgery. They don't recommend that a child be raised as a "third gender", but to give them honest and accurate information about their condition, so that when they're old enough, they can decide which gender they want to be.

Your point?

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With GA, it wasn't just a first impression. Far from it.

Have you considered how difficult it is to change social conditioning that's been instilled since birth? Of course GA used to exhibit masculine traits, and now as Kayleigh she is working to reprogram her brain to overcome the training and act in a way more aligned with her natural self. If you're having difficulty revising your mental concept, that task is exponentially more difficult from the inside. Not something to be undertaken on a whim, and an ongoing process.

Tell me why I should. What I'm talking about is an individual I learned to know on teh interwebs as a male, who identified himself as a male, and whose friends online identified him as a male. I used a set of pronouns when addressing him or talking about him, but there was no conscious effort on my part. Basically I was indifferent.

Why should I consider his plight later on, when I've already been told that I'm disrespectful and whatnot when I was simply continuing what I'd done earlier? Basically, it doesn't help if I'm called names.

I could also be discussing the individual's marriage but I don't really want to go there and I don't think you should either.

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It's not my paradigm. It's a set of definitions that are handy and necessary for explaining human biology (including chimerism, btw). If science was to arrive at a conclusion where they could reasonably show the likelihood and necessity of some other system than binarism in human biology, I would certainly listen and perhaps change my stance. As things stand, I haven't seen it.

Here is an excellent article about transgender and intersex treatment done in the name of social normalization. It violates patients' medical rights, including lying and withholding critical information from patients and their parents, and doing unnecessary surgery on functioning sexual organs before a patient is old enough to consent. The reasoning is that it's in people's best interests to be forced to conform to the binary system, but the suicide rates of patients say otherwise.

I am discussing a vocabulary, a terminology, that is consistent. I am in no way saying what anyone can or cannot do. Why do you think you link is relevant to what I am saying?

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Not directly related, but for curiosity's sake, here is an article about a woman who needed a kidney transplant and the results of the tissue-matching test told her she was not the mother of two of her biological sons. It took them ten years to figure it out - the binary system was not a heck of a lot of help.

I fail to see how changing the terminology that is essentially a biological reality to accommodate for a social minority can ever be a good idea. IMO, adding to it is better from a scientific point of view.

It's not a biological reality. Here is a list of the frequency of various intersex conditions. If you don't want to change the terminology of "he/she" and "his/hers", are you in favor of "zie" and "zer"? (FWIW some of the trans people I know prefer those pronouns and some think they sound stupid.)

I'm in favour of a well-defined terminology, whatever that may be.

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My point was made in reference to yours about hermaphrodites and raising the baby as a female after chopping off body parts. The baby would still be male but a mutilated and abused one.

I notice that you avoided labelling Mowgli, though. What would he be? Wolf or human?

Why must I simplify it to an inaccurate binary? To say he was wolf would belie the biological reality - though I would do it if I were talking to somebody who understood identity on the symbolic level, ie in a spiritual discussion (I agree with what you said in the other thread about the treatment of trans people on I2 vs the treatment of religious people). To say he was human would presuppose a lot of extra behaviors that he wouldn't have. I wouldn't do it if I were dealing with someone who would mistreat him based on sloppy thinking and false expectations.

Because it is not inaccurate. It's not a spiritual discussion, simply a biological one. You are being PC, Pyraxis, and I have to say I'm a bit surprised.
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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #633 on: May 01, 2011, 05:51:03 AM »
The English language is notorious for being less than perfectly adequate in describing how things are.

How lucky I am to speak quite a few others. You'd be happier in Finland.
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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #634 on: May 01, 2011, 06:06:52 AM »
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/Warning.html    :orly:

Could it not be a coincidence that so many people on the spectrum are "trans" and such?  Maybe cause of how AS has affected their life's, they've become confused about their personality's rather than their "gender".
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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #635 on: May 01, 2011, 06:27:19 AM »
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/Warning.html    :orly:

Could it not be a coincidence that so many people on the spectrum are "trans" and such?  Maybe cause of how AS has affected their life's, they've become confused about their personality's rather than their "gender".

I wouldn't rule it out, that's for sure.
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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #636 on: May 01, 2011, 07:09:05 AM »
I guess my views on this is simply this.
If you are trans then Life is going to be fraught with difficulties. Difficulties not experienced by the average Joe Blow. I do not question the validity of this and do not contest it. It will be different to the difficulties that you face being an immigrant in a new country, being a person with an intellectual disability, being a gay, being a person with a sensory impairment, being a person with a psychological impairment or.....being someone on the spectrum.
For any of these "classes" of citizens in society, I do not contest or downplay the difficulties faced.
That said, the world will not shaped itself around you or make much in the way of fitting in with your difference. You have to basically get on with life and meet it head on regardless of the difficulties it throws at you.
Work, parenting, social relationships, dating, and countless other things in life will be constant trials. I don't think any of us here doubt that.
Making demands of a community to fit in with you is not cool. It is only going to ostracise and alienate you and exclude you.

The original post on this thread is evidence of the indifference of society. Is it fair? Nope. Is stamping your feet or waving your fists in rage going to fix it? Nope.
Perhaps best we can do is be a little tougher skinned and a little more willing to fight to defend our personal values and freedoms and at the same time accept life is life and it is not the walk in the park or joyous, wonderous thing of feelgood movies. Life is tough and demanding and choosing what and who to fight against is key. Fight the fight that are worth fighting and that you can win at.

I expect that with trans people that is fighting to protect the values of your identity. To rail against those that would seek to do you harm and be accepting of people who would seek not to do you harm. Fight to be comfortable in the skin you are in and with the understanding of what it is to be trans. I ought not be a me and the transpeople against the world. The world is rather big and transpeople are a rather small and insignificant part of that great world. The good news of course is that if you are trans you are also a number of other things that has fuck all to do with being trans. You are a member of a number of other classes be it race, creed, religion, career, or whatever. Look at the sum of your parts and you find the things in yourself that fit with others.

Transpeople are not, in my view, just people with a silly notion in their heads. Even were that the truth it would not really matter. People are people and it is the similarities and the other shared aspects of a human nature and condition that bind us. Interests, experiences and personality. This is where the sum of the parts is greater than the whole. This is where when we say "We don't give a shit". It demands whilst trans may be something of great importance to you it may not be to us so find some aspect we share common ground and we will fit in and actually care and share.

That is just my belief.
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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #637 on: May 01, 2011, 07:26:24 AM »
Well I can empathize with transpeople to an extent of experiencing gender confusion while in my teenage years. So there is a real geniune feeling in that situation, however you have to be cautious and know EXACTLY what is triggering those thoughts and feelings before taking any major steps. To step into a situation of changing your body, only to find out your mind was going through a phase, or have reasoning that isn't as well thought through or compensating for another underlying problem; it's something you can't just reverse when you regret it.

I'm the opposite case of GA, I came to tolerate myself as I am instead (that or whatever was causing those feelings died down enough). As I joke, I lost the coin toss and just have to deal with it.
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Existence actually has two broad meanings despite its apparent meaningless. The constant reconciliation of all its parts, and the conservation of any closed system as a whole.

Morality can be extrapolated from these meanings to make these two commandments of godless morality: 1). Be in harmony with one another and 2). Care for the environment.

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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #638 on: May 01, 2011, 08:32:22 AM »
^Yes it has those disadvantages but the graphics are excellent.

Not to mention, the gameplay is exceptional in quality, you can literally do anything as long as you respect the game physics. But no hax is yet to found to violate the physics of it.

Are there any finishing moves?  :orly:
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« Reply #639 on: May 01, 2011, 08:34:26 AM »
^Yes it has those disadvantages but the graphics are excellent.

Not to mention, the gameplay is exceptional in quality, you can literally do anything as long as you respect the game physics. But no hax is yet to found to violate the physics of it.

Are there any finishing moves?  :orly:

As many as you wish, depends on what you mean, "finishing"? ;)
Existence actually has two broad meanings despite its apparent meaningless. The constant reconciliation of all its parts, and the conservation of any closed system as a whole.

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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #640 on: May 01, 2011, 08:37:26 AM »
^Yes it has those disadvantages but the graphics are excellent.

Not to mention, the gameplay is exceptional in quality, you can literally do anything as long as you respect the game physics. But no hax is yet to found to violate the physics of it.

Are there any finishing moves?  :orly:

As many as you wish, depends on what you mean, "finishing"? ;)



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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #641 on: May 01, 2011, 08:38:55 AM »
Well that's a interesting way to do it. :laugh:
Existence actually has two broad meanings despite its apparent meaningless. The constant reconciliation of all its parts, and the conservation of any closed system as a whole.

Morality can be extrapolated from these meanings to make these two commandments of godless morality: 1). Be in harmony with one another and 2). Care for the environment.

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I2 today is not i2 of yesteryear. It is a knitting circle. Those that participate be they nice or asshats know their place and the price to be there. Odeon is the overlord

.Benevolent if you toe the line.

Think it is I2 of old? Even Odeon is not so delusional as to think otherwise. He may on occasionally pretend otherwise but his base is that knitting circle.

Censoring/banning/restricting/moderating myself, Calanadale & Scrapheap were all not his finest moments.

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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #643 on: May 01, 2011, 09:14:14 AM »
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xhssqd_dragon-born-goro-kid-casey-heynes_fun

:rofl:  :plus:

Some people call him Zangief kid too , good on him for smashing that little bullying bastard.  :thumbup:


Well that's a interesting way to do it. :laugh:

It's so shexy right?  :autism:

(But seriously the game is awesome , I just wish I could kill people online though.  :thumbdn:)
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Re: People's views regarding transpeople
« Reply #644 on: May 01, 2011, 09:48:29 AM »
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/Warning.html    :orly:

Could it not be a coincidence that so many people on the spectrum are "trans" and such?  Maybe cause of how AS has affected their life's, they've become confused about their personality's rather than their "gender".

That's a very interesting link, Benji.

It would be ironic if GA's first psychiatrist, the one who told him that his cross dressing and "trans stuff" was a learned behavior because of his sisters and he should stop reinforcing this himself by dressing as a woman, turns out to have actually been right after all.
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