What is a 'grit' QV ?
Grits are a disgusting variant of hominy corn that are technically edible but best saved for post nuclear war zombie infestation scenarios. Don't blame QV, she is Southern. They are often brought up with romanticized notions of the CSA and a tendency to eat horrid things like grits and okra.
Okra is delicious too, either dusted in cornmeal and fried or in a gumbo.
Or frozen whole okra, thawed until it's icy cold, with onion, dressed with oil and vinegar. Yummmmmmmmmmmmm.
BTW, my Mom and I went to Wentzels (a Mobile Alabama icon) in the 1970's. We had the gumbo. After our first spoonful, we looked at each other and both said, "I didn't know I didn't like okra in gumbo until now."