why are people SO annoyed by complaining?

[ZEGH8578]

best reply so far.

It can sometimes be hard to stand in the face of the confusing emotional message of complaints because they're sometimes presented in an agressive tone. If it's not agressive then likely to be whiny; not sure which is uglier.

i know what you mean.,

growing up with my brother, we got used to just laughing at each others grievances, and in all honesty THAT is usually the reaction i prefer/expect when complaining about mundane stuff, such as crappy programs crashes or stuff, when people get all "stop complaining you whiny bitch" i simply feel misunderstood more than anything

other than my brother, ive met VERY few people who will react with laughter to my complaints. like ive said here a few times, most of the time i just want to vent, and let people laugh at my strife a little
when it comes to politics and world affairs, im just exchanging opinions. anyone w a brain knows that i cant run to korea to fix things, or to sudan, or somalia, i find it pathetic when people suggest that to me

i think we all hate it when people tell us to do something thats not realistic... such as the school psych telling me to walk away from kids who upset me after i got in a fight and beat the shit out of them... the reply to said comment was "have you ever been punched in the back of the head or the kidney? it hurts... have you ever walked away from your parents when there trying to discipline you? it just gets you in more shit. walking away only works when shit isnt hitting the fan and if shits not hitting the fan then there is no reason to walk away"... people are idiots they will never stop being idiots and in the end we will just have to put up with them or shoot them are selves  

a very obvious thing i thought of is that people love to sound wise...
on this other forum im on, someones pushing someone else up against a corner, with the rethorical "what do you do when you see homeless people? do you just shake your head at them, or do you do everything in your power at making their lives better"
wtf as if hes gabriel the angel himself............................
im staying out of that particular debate, cus ive allready told that guy hes a dick a bunch of times before, but yeah, THAT ATTITUDE

people will actually get all attitudey with you, and demand that you take hobos in, shower them, and offer them clean clothes, then insist thats exactly what they do, just cus they love to appear saintish. gragh, now im getting pissed off just thinking about it

donations too........ im staying out of those discussions, cus im sick of telling people im broke, on welfare, then spiraling into defending myself BEING on welfare, explaining what autism means, then explaining that im not necesarily like rain-man etc etc etc etc, but thats not even the point:
people LOVE to pretend they send all of their money to charity when they dont, then make others feel terrible for NOT sending money.
besides that, sending money doesnt really solve anything, its a way to feel better, which is exactly what theyre after. ok. getting annoyed again

['andersom']

People love to feel guilty too.

Quite a few people I meet apologise to me for eating meat when they find out I am a vegetarian. I'm not accusing them, not telling them anything to do, they just start moaning about their guilt.
Same when they hear I don't own a car. Wow, they should do that too, so much better for the environment and all, and they are so bad, moan, moan, moan.
Or when they heard I had kept my own name after marriage.

Some people just love that sense of guilt. And thinking about Sudan will really give that to them.

[Osensitive1]

a very obvious thing i thought of is that people love to sound wise...

Particularly like sounding wise and ironic.

[RageBeoulve]

Im sure lots of people have opinions and would like to act about things they don't agree with.  unless something is right under your nose or directly affecting you its easier to just complain!  Sudan is just rather a long long way away...

i know. it makes perfect sense.

see, my angle is SO out-of-the-ordinary, i get misunderstood for a 2nd time now
im not asking why people complain, im asking why its so unacceptable TO complain

unacceptable TO complain

Its not. It just sounds like someone thinks you might have been complaining a bit too much and decided to tell you to put up or shut up. Don't worry about it bro. Your friend or aqquaintance was probably just in a bad mood.

[DukeNukem]

People love to feel guilty too.

Quite a few people I meet apologise to me for eating meat when they find out I am a vegetarian. I'm not accusing them, not telling them anything to do, they just start moaning about their guilt.
Same when they hear I don't own a car. Wow, they should do that too, so much better for the environment and all, and they are so bad, moan, moan, moan.
Or when they heard I had kept my own name after marriage.

Some people just love that sense of guilt. And thinking about Sudan will really give that to them.

I don't think it's that people love to feel guilt per se, but it's that they like to seem like a better person to others. And one of the best ways to do that is to feign guilt.

I wouldn't apologize for eating meat for any reason, let alone just because you or anyone else are vegetarian.

['andersom']

People love to feel guilty too.

Quite a few people I meet apologise to me for eating meat when they find out I am a vegetarian. I'm not accusing them, not telling them anything to do, they just start moaning about their guilt.
Same when they hear I don't own a car. Wow, they should do that too, so much better for the environment and all, and they are so bad, moan, moan, moan.
Or when they heard I had kept my own name after marriage.

Some people just love that sense of guilt. And thinking about Sudan will really give that to them.

I don't think it's that people love to feel guilt per se, but it's that they like to seem like a better person to others. And one of the best ways to do that is to feign guilt.

I wouldn't apologize for eating meat for any reason, let alone just because you or anyone else are vegetarian.

You may be on to something. Thanks.

Still think they really like that feeling.

[Osensitive1]

Not sure if I would say I like my guilt, but do appreciate it for what it is. My guilt keeps me grounded in my own sense of morality, and I consider this my most positive trait. Although, I do have trouble differentiating the physical sensations of anxiety and guilt; can work it out logically but they still feel the same. This blending can be problematic, as my anxiety is extreme. Though can't imagine trying to get rid of it because it's also closely tied to my sense of paranoia. My paranoia protects me when dealing with the others; without it I'm clueless and naive. So, yes, a big ball of paranoia, anxiety, and guilt, that's me. They're so entangled, can't imagine who I would be without them.

["couldbecousin"]

Not sure if I would say I like my guilt, but do appreciate it for what it is. My guilt keeps me grounded in my own sense of morality, and I consider this my most positive trait. Although, I do have trouble differentiating the physical sensations of anxiety and guilt; can work it out logically but they still feel the same. This blending can be problematic, as my anxiety is extreme. Though can't imagine trying to get rid of it because it's also closely tied to my sense of paranoia. My paranoia protects me when dealing with the others; without it I'm clueless and naive. So, yes, a big ball of paranoia, anxiety, and guilt, that's me. They're so entangled, can't imagine who I would be without them.

I know what you mean about that. That's how my bad episodes of OCD felt.   

[jedicounsellor]

Yes.

LOL super-alibaba-jihad-kaboom

[RageBeoulve]

Zegh, because all some people do is complain. Words without action changes nothing.

so thats it.
i am supposed to surrender, and never again speak of the sudanese genocide?
because people have gotten pissed off at me even for that :b

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heres what i suspect. for most people its about fear of change. if we all just aggree that everything is what it is supposed to be, we dont have to risk change. if everyone aggrees that the sudanese genocide (for example) needs to be stopped, it means that we should organize a military intervention to sudan. idunno why this hasnt been done long ago, and for the 1000th time, no, _I_ cant go to sudan all by my lonesome, and start shooting at gvt soldiers there, i dont even own a gun, and much less airplane ticketmoney.............

i just dont see why people get so worked up about it, especially their demand that _I_ stop world atrocities, while THEY are allowed to disagree with it - in silence i guess. im just confused by it all.

Because most are secretly mortified by how the west is crumbling, but they're all too pussified and domesticated to take action. When they hear someone with the balls to say something speak on things, they immediately focus on them, secretly hoping they'll take a position of leadership.

[Gopher Gary]

People are annoyed by complaining because nobody wants to hear your bitching. 

[El]

Apparently complaining is fun enough to bring up again 4 years later.

[Jack]

It was a memorable thread.

["couldbecousin"]

  And everybody complains.  It's a universal part of the human condition. 

[ZEGH8578]

We should make more threads about the universe