You know, one thing I'm still not sure on is a girl opening a door for me - I think context matters and yeah, even if it felt like a sissy context I'd still play it off graciously. I think what kills me though in dealing with my AS is that far more often than being mad I'm thinking image and rather than just following my gut I still have to ask myself - to be the kind of person I want people to think of me as, should I try to prevent that or try to at least counter-compensate some other way? If she's more of a souljah-ette than a girly girl than it doesn't feel like nearly as big of a deal because they tend to be more stable and the doubly little things won't phase em as much. If she's a close friend no trouble there either. The only thing is when your on a date with a girl and she does it it's that same momentary and mild sinking feeling as if she spends way more money on a date than you do (toward you) like the balls been pushed farther into your court and you've gotta make sure you reciprocate in kind in some way to assure your keeping the equilibrium (and that kind of paranoia IS legit - women care a LOT about the little things and you have to make sure of course that its genuine, that you don't make a show of it but even deliberately downplay it).
Bleh, didn't wanna get off on a whole philosophical shpeal about it but it happens I guess...
