Y'know, I could actually use an opinion on this...y'see, there is this girl I like, I've liked her for VERY long time. Since we were both about 11-12, now, AFAIK, she is either 32, 33 or 34. Thing is, she's got that LFA autie trait where you don't look like you age physically. She literally, looks now, as if we were back in that spesh school, and we were 12, she's autie, and, well, I fancied her then, and I still do now.
Think it would be wrong of me to ask her if she'd like to come out with me on a date, because of the way she looks? it isn't BECAUSE she looks about 11-12 that I fancy her, not at all, its because I have fancied her since we first met, and since we go way back, I just haven't stopped, its not changed over time, I just like her, the same as I always have. Sweet girl, tiny, but cute as buttons, and a delight to be around. Even her voice sounds kinda squeaky, but I didn't really have the stomach to ask her out back then, I know someone, a friend of mine, and she went to a different spesh school with this girl, laura, to the one i did, and she still knows how to find her place. We both went there a few years back to drop by and see how she was doing (well, it seems, I'm glad to say), but since then, haven't seen her.
Idea would be not to ask her straight out, but see her again socially, ask her if she'd do me the honor of coming out to dinner on me, see a movie, etc., and then ask her, once I'm sure she'd be comfortable with me at least posing the question.
So...what do you think? obviously I'm not going to think about the age of consent law, its just she does LOOK young. Really young, although she is older than I am. She's one of those auties who doesn't age, don't know if any of the rest of you has seen that phenomenon, an autistic, usually but not always female, but they do not look like they age a single day physically. So this would be, IF she decided upon being asked, that she would assent to taking me as hers, a relationship in spite of, not because of, her apparent visual age.
It sort of unnerves me, in that respect. Because people aren't meant to look 11-12 and look sexy. Its just that she always has been to me, since I first knew her when we were close to that age ourselves, and I find I can get over the uncanny valley effect, because logically, she is not a child, she just looks like one. It shouldn't be possible. But she is. A really sexy kid, who isn't a kid, but someone i've known for maybe 20 years. It takes a conscious effort, to get over that, its weird, but I genuinely care about and for her, and she is one of the very, very few people, who I know I could be with, that I could, maybe, get out of the dark and icy place in which I am currently stuck.
I don't know how much I can take of that. Its been so long, and so desolate. I mean, if I can't relocate the girl you know I mean, this other girl, is someone I could ask, who I like, a lot, her folks have met me, and were fine with me visiting, were lovely to me and my friend kel, Laura's folks brought us all coke and cookies, nice people, relatives I could get on with, her brother seems decent enough, I never knew him in school, but he went to the same one as his sis and me, just different parts of it because he was younger. Last time I saw him, we ended up playing a round of his pokemon cards together, lounging by the fire. So, the environment is one that a trust could be built up and if Laura would want to be with me, it could be done, in respect of the whole 'wholly shit hun you look like you did 20-25 years ago, as if it were yesterday' factor, and her folks already know who I am and that the two of us go way back.
So can anyone actually find a reason I shouldn't ask her? and no, her being autistic doesn't count. If it did then I'd have dated maybe three times or four, and it be a nuclear disaster or else about as exciting as watching a puddle of piss evaporate on an icy cold day. If I didn't ask autie girls or aspie girls then I'd never ask anyone. I mean, the looks. I DON'T care what total strangers think. I'd want her family's welcome, I like them, but for random bypassers if they decided to accuse me of anything, I'm fine with just seeing them off with a growl and an evil stare, maybe 'piss off, she's older than I am', but only one I'd NEED to be happy with it, is the lady herself, and I'd very, very much want her family's blessing. They seem like people who would give it, if they know that all will be well, and that if she wanted to get into a relationship at all, it would be with a boyfriend who would go all out to make her happy and bring light to her life and a smile to her day, and of course, anyone of a bullying mindset, would be seen off by a MOST displeased me.