My ex-wife was very possessive in many ways. She was the jealous type to begin with, but I also think her phobias were complicated by the fact that she and I lost our virginities together. She owned my ass and I was pussy whipped into thinking that she was the only partner I would ever have or something. I did fine after we split up the first time and I had a different attitude when we got back together.
If you got back together, doesn't that mean you were still pussy-whipped???
Of course I was still sunk, but by that time I had a straw above the surface and I was breathing on my own for the first time.
We spent the next three years getting together and breaking up, the whole while, both of us "growing up" a little more each time and not communicating at all ... ever.