I do agree that the SS deal has been a huge nightmare to the extreme and has been going on for a ridiculous amount of time. They've been awful to her. At the same time, remember that there are battles she has to fight on her own. You can't always be there to rescue her. If you always do that, then she never learns how to fight for herself. It's okay to be her safe place, but to be the one to runs in to her defence isn't good for either of you. I wish you the best of luck.