My new baby

[earthboundmisfit]

My rule of thumb is to try not to do anything that will give you cancer or a criminal record.

killjoy.

[earthboundmisfit]

No you don't. You need to believe that you don't need a girlfriend.

Are you doing some kind of Jedi mind trick?

[The_Chosen_One]

No you don't. You need to believe that you don't need a girlfriend.

Are you doing some kind of Jedi mind trick?

When 900 years you reach look as good will you not?

[Celticgoddess]

My rule of thumb is to try not to do anything that will give you cancer or a criminal record.

killjoy.

I know. I know. And the women in my family live a very long life (close to 100) so I've got lots of years to try and make some fun without getting cancer or a criminal record.

And now I've probably jinxed myself and I'll end up dying of cancer in jail before i'm 50. Le sigh. 

[Adam]

ok obviously i don't literally need a gf. but i want one

[GalileoAce]

ok obviously i don't literally need a gf. but i want one

Why?

[Adam]

because i like girls soi want one

[GalileoAce]

because i like girls soi want one

Orientation isn't relevant. I mean why do you want a girlfriend/partner? Just wanting something isn't enough... You need to why you want it.

[El]

a lot of cute girls smoke though

and it gives you an excuse just to hang around and talk to them

how else do you talk to women?

kidnap them?

Be more chatty in general, for one thing.

Think of it this way. How many people go out and get a Ferrari as their first or second car? Dating should be like that. You don't always start out with what you want, but you need a few to practice on.

A lot of aspies fuck up their first relationships in a major way, we just have no idea and do some pretty stupid shit. Get that out of the way before you mean that person who is the one for you.

Lol,  Genius way to put it.

I agree. The times I've come across cool people I ended up dating were the times I wasn't looking. I was focusing on myself, doing things I enjoyed, wasn't looking for anyone and then it just sort of happened. For me, all of my relationships started off as friendships first. The times I got lonely and went looking, it never happened. Damnit. I was lonely too. Woulda been nice.

The best relationships I've been in started as friendships first.  Then again some of the male friends I have right now I met because I was actively looking to date, realized I didn't want to date them, but liked them platonically.

I'd say actively seeking to date isn't necessarily a bad thing- then again, I'm sort of a goal-setting person- but I'd also say if you don't like yourself, you will be seeting youself up to have a bad relationship.  You can love others without loving yourself, but you probably shouldn't, at least not romantcially.

i know i know, and it's sad

i think i deserve at least one lovely NT girl though, even if she does break my heart

then maybe i'll settle for the spazz

from what i see with aspies though, we generally come in two types:

the ones that realise they're different and react by becoming more withdrawn and are usually very quiet, nervous, anxiety-ridden and depressive

then the ones that just don't even seem to realise/care that they're different, talk a lot and come across as extremely spazzy

the first type would be fine, except that that is the type i am, and i don't think it would work, me being with someone equally scared and cowardly... i want a hot NT girl who won't be as quiet and creepy as i am

but do any hot NT women like creepy aspie guys?

nope 

They do if they don't know they're hot.  Go for the ones with self-esteem as bad as yours!   

ok obviously i don't literally need a gf. but i want one

Do you actually want a relationship, or do you want to hit a milestone that you think would mark you as more "normal" than you are now?

[Celticgoddess]

Soph - And your answer is not allowed to be because I need someone to cook for me, do my laundry, and I wanna get laid.

[Celticgoddess]

ok obviously i don't literally need a gf. but i want one

Do you actually want a relationship, or do you want to hit a milestone that you think would mark you as more "normal" than you are now?

Ahhh....excellent question. 

[El]

Soph - And your answer is not allowed to be because I need someone to cook for me, do my laundry, and I wanna get laid.

Or any other version of "I want a mother figure that I can screw."

[GalileoAce]

Soph - And your answer is not allowed to be because I need someone to cook for me, do my laundry, and I wanna get laid.

Or any other version of "I want a mother figure that I can screw."

And yet...so many men fall into that trap

[earthboundmisfit]

Or any other version of "I want a mother figure that I can screw."

ewwwwwww creepy

[Adam]

because i like girls soi want one

Orientation isn't relevant. I mean why do you want a girlfriend/partner? Just wanting something isn't enough... You need to why you want it.

it is relevant coz that's why i want one. i like it so i want it. coz i'm selfish. like i like cats so i have a cat. if i didn't have a cat i'd want one

They do if they don't know they're hot.  Go for the ones with self-esteem as bad as yours!  

i would if i could find oen - the nice ones always know they're hot though

Do you actually want a relationship, or do you want to hit a milestone that you think would mark you as more "normal" than you are now?

i do actually want a relationship, although i'm not gonna lie - the normal thing is also becoming more important.

Soph - And your answer is not allowed to be because I need someone to cook for me, do my laundry, and I wanna get laid.

that is what i want to have in 10 years time, right now i can make do without the first two  

btw i do realise how dumb it seems to want a relationship - i used to think the guys who moaned about not having a gf on wp were retarded. but they seem to be the ones that just want A gf, and don't really care much as long as it's a girl. i on the other hand, am more fussy than i can afford to be lol