I'll bet that everyone on this board has gotten fucked over by someone or something in the course of their lives. I was bullied in school constantly as a youth. It was hideously painful and humiliating. But over time, and with much thought and study, I have learned that it is pointless to keep hating those who teased and bullied me. It'd be nice if they came round and said, "You know, I treated you like shit back in school. I'm really sorry." But I can't expect that to happen, and I can't make it happen. People are going to do what they want to do, not what I want them to do. And that's no bad thing. Free will means making choices: you can be a mensch or an asshole. Sometimes both. I like to think I'm more mensch than asshole, but the truth is I can be a MAJOR asshole at times. I don't like that, so I work hard at not being a dick. The work involved in doing that is its own reward: it helps me build self-esteem, self-confidence and self-concept.
No one anywhere ever said life was or would be easy. But it can be made EASIER by not taking yourself seriously and learning to laugh, love and sing in times of trouble. I have more confidence in myself now than I ever have in my life. I don't shy away from the unpleasant truths of my life: I know I am an alcoholic, and I'm taking steps to deal with that. I have problems with anger control, and I'm working on that. I don't blame anyone, including myself. That would be a waste of time and energy and I don't want to waste either of those.
I can't wait for others to fix my problems. And that wouldn't help me, because it would make me even more dependent on the State. The more I learn to do for myself and others without the State, the better I am and the more USEFUL I am to myself and others as a citizen of the universe. In the past, I played the victim card every chance I got. It was null-productive. I did not improve ONE WHIT as a person. I just became a better tit-sucker. Which, although enjoyable, is not a transferrable skill outside of sexual relations.
To sum: I refuse to blame others for my problems or my situation. It doesn't work. Even if it did, I wouldn't. I am what I am, and I am OK with that, because I know that I can improve myself. That is the true power.