I know i'm pushing my luck on the post single whatevers in the same thread, but i have a question, and i already made a thread called I got a question, so I made this an everybody thread.
My question is: How are you supposed to regulate eye contact with obviously physically disabled people, and regulate looking at them in general in order to give them proper respect?
I don't care much about making eye contact with normal people, I think if you're a normal person and the person speaking to you is deliberately and obviously avoiding eye contact, that there is some reason, and they aren't just trying to be disrespectful.
However I feel a responsibility to respect and be nice to potentially vulnerable people. And I just like doing it anyway. But I have trouble enough dealing with eye contact with normal people, but when I see a physically disabled person, i go all to pieces. I have no idea when to look, where to look, if i should look, if i shouldn't look. I am afraid if i don't look, they'll think i'm horrified by them and are avoiding looking at them. And I'm afraid if I look too long or in the wrong place, they'll get offended too.
I often wish that I had telepathy so I could just project my respect for people into them, without having to worry about facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice.