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My husband and I thought long and hard about getting classes for our daughter, but given her physical aggression, we decided against giving her more training in physical control.
She might have learned more self-control but we couldn't be sure, so the last thing we needed was her to just become more well-trained in punching and kicking.
How about Tai Chi Chuan or somesuch? As I understand it, that would implement the self-control before it gets into actual fighting techniques.
That's a good idea. Thank you.
What I was trained in was Shotokan Karate, and I learned control along with techniques, but sometimes my daughter learns the exact opposite of what one would expect her to learn.
Like for example, she saw an anti-bullying video the school showed to all the kids, but she did not get the message the video was intended to teach. Instead, she learned to say "Nooser, nooser" (Loser, loser) perseveratively, which was the example the video gave of bullying which was saying a "naughty" word (to her it was, anyway).