Most people I've loved and liked I still have a soft spot for. Very few totally lost my esteem and respect.
Yes, sometimes I cringe remembering some stupid shit I did or said. But that's what people do. Making stupid mistakes. Especially when liking someone and not knowing if it's mutual. Probably even more as a Spazz.
I've grown more gentle towards others and told myself to be fair; this to be more gentle towards myself too. So, stupid things are stupid, but not the end of the world. Not even when I was the one doing the stupid things.
I did not harden the fuck up, when it comes to liking people.
I did not harden my heart. I grew my bouncing back capabilties and strength.