Vindictiveness

[ProfessorFarnsworth]

I'm extremely vindictive and rather patience about how I execute revenge. Usually I only do that with people who really piss me off or absolutely deserve it.

[Natalia Evans]

I've been called vindictive and my husband agreed I have some in me. He can also see I am agressive.

[TheoK]

My wife says I am very vindictive I was just wondering if this was a common aspie trait of just part
 of my loving personality?   For Example a large super store that is locally owned and has lots of great deals and good food bought a large parcel of land next to the high way for a store they offered at make any improvements necessary but alas it it s snotty I'm better than you town and they don't want it even though it's in an isolated and very developed part part of town. After a 14 year legal battle they are selling and have no plans to  build any more in the state.  My plan was to find the most offensive thing that can be legally built there say low income housing and build it.   Fuck the town she says I should let it go' Opinions

Yes, I'm what they call a "rättshaverist" in Swedish, and so is my father, grandfather and my grandfather's cousin, who is a pretty well known businessman in Sweden. 

[Blasted]

I think I am quite vindictive :/

[Frolic_Fun]

My mother is extremely vindictive, especially towards people like my dad.

I am a bit vindictive too myself, but if I don't like someone then I just ignore them.

[RageBeoulve]

I am one hundred percent vindictive. If someone fucks with me, I WILL get revenge. And what I do to get back is usually like ten times worse.

[Nukey]

I am very vindictive, too. I spend quite some time planning or just thinking about it.  I very seldom do more than that, though. I never forgive when someone has wronged me. (I'm not talking accidentally bumping me on the street or something in that league. I only mean either things that had serious consequences or scarred me deeply in some emotional way.)

It's supposed to be an Aspie thing to not be able to forgive things that it's "reasonable" to forgive (according to Christopher Gillberg, a shrink that seems to be quite prejudiced against us.

[Blasted]

I think I am quite vindictive :/

Although I'm more grudge-bearing really.  Which I guess is worse  :lol:

[RageBeoulve]

I think I am quite vindictive :/

Although I'm more grudge-bearing really.  Which I guess is worse  :lol:

I put careful thought into everything. Revenge is no different to me. I'm extremely vindictive.

[Mr Smith]

Vindictiveness is not an aspie trait.

I personally cannot be bothered with anyone expressing this trait - aspie or not. They go completely onto my "people to avoid and ignore" list. I was talking to PMS Elle about an aspie stalker I had who was very vindictive.

Not cutting this shit.

[Al Swearegen]

I am very vindictive. It is a dog eat dog world and I have learned that as honourable as it is turning the other cheek people tend not to learn anything from this and may make you feel like a better person but the bully learns nothing and likely will not change their ways.
Nail them. Make them pay.
Find their weakness and expose it and show them that you are not going to meekly lie down for them to kick you.
Hell we teach our kids to be independent and confident and that good manners requires if you do the wrong thing to acknowledge it, accept it, apologise and seek to make it right. Basic stuff.
Someone tries it on and they deserve to be hit hard and revisit the lessons of their childhood and register that they deserve the arse kicking they just received and probably a good deal more for times that others did not do it.
May make me a "bad" person but I can live with that very easily and I refuse to be a victim or someone's punching bag.

[Mr Smith]

It depends on the reasoning behind the vindictiveness too.

If someone hardout wrongs you, then its fine.

But there are petty things and pathetic actions people do - those are what I can't be bothered with. Usually a combination of vindictiveness and manipulativeness.