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Title: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Tom/Mutate on September 19, 2008, 05:05:02 AM
I went into the Vodafone shop last week to ask about my phone bill and I had to talk to a slick indian guy - he kept saying "by the looks of this you need the more expensive package" and things like "I'll just upgrade you to the more expensive package because you need that". I had to keep saying "no, I don't want that". I said "I don't want the more expensive package, I want to stay on the one I'm on" and he shrugged and said "well, it's not that much more expensive, so I'll put you on it now" and I had to just keep repeating it.

Also in the shop I work in we let entrepreneur type people set up stands to sell people things in the entrance, and some of them were trying to sell perfume sets to passers by for £30. The one guy kept bothering us (the staff) and trying to sell it to us too. I said "I don't want it, I can't afford it, have noone to buy it for" and he kept arguing with me saying "Even if you don't have a girlfirend surely you have a mother" and "you have a debit card don't you".

Also, I think he was trying use some kind of neurological programming to hypnotise us. He kept repeating phases in a soft voice and copying my movements. That's why I didn't look at him and ignored him.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: duncvis on September 19, 2008, 05:48:54 AM
'Read my lips - BACK OFF' seems to work well.  >:(
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Christopher McCandless on September 19, 2008, 06:30:18 AM
'Read my lips - BACK OFF' seems to work well.  >:(
It doesn't get you a discount though. The best trick is to go into a shop knowing what you want, then use the terminology. That way they know that you cannot be fooled.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: klox on September 19, 2008, 06:42:46 AM
Everytime I go to the Bank they try to offer me a credit card. I made a serious comment to a woman that works there about closing my account while sitting one on one with her in her office. She then just ignores it and said something like "Oh you would be interested in a credit card". Man, I just shut down on people when they do that shit to me. I just stared her straight in the eyes and said, "NO." I was perfectly polite the whole time, until that moment. They are just so blindly desperate for your money that they drive you away. Their methods just seem self defeatist to me. I mean it must work on morons, or they would hesitate?
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: ApotheosisIV on September 19, 2008, 07:58:12 AM
I went into the Vodafone shop last week to ask about my phone bill and I had to talk to a slick indian guy - he kept saying "by the looks of this you need the more expensive package" and things like "I'll just upgrade you to the more expensive package because you need that". I had to keep saying "no, I don't want that". I said "I don't want the more expensive package, I want to stay on the one I'm on" and he shrugged and said "well, it's not that much more expensive, so I'll put you on it now" and I had to just keep repeating it.

Also in the shop I work in we let entrepreneur type people set up stands to sell people things in the entrance, and some of them were trying to sell perfume sets to passers by for £30. The one guy kept bothering us (the staff) and trying to sell it to us too. I said "I don't want it, I can't afford it, have noone to buy it for" and he kept arguing with me saying "Even if you don't have a girlfirend surely you have a mother" and "you have a debit card don't you".

Also, I think he was trying use some kind of neurological programming to hypnotise us. He kept repeating phases in a soft voice and copying my movements. That's why I didn't look at him and ignored him.

Richard Bandler did a course for salesman.

In the vodaphone example, it seems you knew exactly what you wanted. I would have said, "I want X,Y,Z: if you can't sort it out, then I will go elsewhere." Phone shops don't have a monopoly.
In the shop where you work example, I would make it clear that I wasn't interested. Any further pestering would result in me telling him to stick his sales-products up his arse.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Alex179 on September 19, 2008, 08:14:53 AM
I actually sold shoes about 4 years or so ago.   Surprisingly I did fairly well after I got used to the job, though I was a bit robotic in how I approached the customer (like I was reading a script haha).  You can definitely stand up to salespeople.    Just be knowledgeable and research your options before you go.   Don't let them try to bully you or act like they know more than you.   My dad loves to take me car shopping because I usually know a lot more than the car salesperson about their own cars (Car and Driver + Road and Track subscriptions ftw).   
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Parts on September 19, 2008, 09:05:43 AM
I used to be more of a sucker for those things than I am now.  Now when people get pushy I turn around and walk out not saying a word sometimes they give chase but I give them that "if you don't back off I'll kill you"  look and it seams fine then again it's hard to go back to that store after that :laugh:
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Trigger 11 on September 19, 2008, 11:58:46 AM
To answer the question...absolutely!

I will not deal with people like that. When I shop, I know what I want, and if they try to sell me anything else I walk away.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Pyraxis on September 19, 2008, 02:00:42 PM
My dad loves to take me car shopping because I usually know a lot more than the car salesperson about their own cars (Car and Driver + Road and Track subscriptions ftw).

 :laugh: I need someone like you, when I finally get around to buying a car.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: odeon on September 19, 2008, 02:45:08 PM
'Read my lips - BACK OFF' seems to work well.  >:(
It doesn't get you a discount though. The best trick is to go into a shop knowing what you want, then use the terminology. That way they know that you cannot be fooled.

True, unfortunately.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: duncvis on September 19, 2008, 02:52:50 PM
If I already know exactly what I want, I'll buy it online. No spotty wankers trying to sell warranties, and it usually works out cheaper. In real shops I save haggling until I've already selected what I want with the sales gloits safely on the other side of the shop. And I generally do get the discount.  :eyebrows:
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Christopher McCandless on September 19, 2008, 03:20:18 PM
My dad loves to take me car shopping because I usually know a lot more than the car salesperson about their own cars (Car and Driver + Road and Track subscriptions ftw).

 :laugh: I need someone like you, when I finally get around to buying a car.
You could just go to a few dealerships, learn the terminology, then go to the one that has the car you want.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Tesla on September 19, 2008, 03:45:59 PM
This is why I buy all my shit online.

I hate salesmen.  I can usually say no.

I sold tires for almost two years.  It's easy to get lost of the fact that you're dealing with a person.  I ripped a couple people off, but I tried really, really hard to be good.  Especially people you could tell were hard up.  Like this one girl who came in... she had plates from a couple states away, her car was loaded with shit, and she looked like she'd been on the road for a while.  She needed one tire because it had gone flat and been fucked up.  I worked out a quote that was about $60 and she got really sad, and said she couldn't afford it.  Once my boss walked away I was able to lower it to $25 and she was on her way.

Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Alex179 on September 19, 2008, 04:42:29 PM
My dad loves to take me car shopping because I usually know a lot more than the car salesperson about their own cars (Car and Driver + Road and Track subscriptions ftw).

 :laugh: I need someone like you, when I finally get around to buying a car.
There are plenty of us around it seems.   You are moving somewhere that isn't very far from me anyways.   The thing is you have to walk out on the salesperson and can't take the first deal they put in front of you ever.   Just knowing everything about the car is not enough.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Pyraxis on September 19, 2008, 05:14:44 PM
Good to know.

I could learn the terminology if I spent enough time at it, but cars really don't interest me. I'm one of those ditzes who cares foremost about the color.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Christopher McCandless on September 19, 2008, 05:43:10 PM
Good to know.

I could learn the terminology if I spent enough time at it, but cars really don't interest me. I'm one of those ditzes who cares foremost about the color.
You only have to learn about 20 or so words, just so you sound like what you are talking about. Then change the conversation topic slightly.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Mr Smith on September 19, 2008, 06:04:35 PM
Yeah, sometimes if i'm feeling really aspergerish I will listen for a bit, but most of the time I will tell them I'm eitehr looking or not interested.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Natalia Evans on September 19, 2008, 06:59:59 PM
God I hate sales people. I am too nice to even tell them off. I need to get stronger so I can be aggressive towards them.


I just ignore them and keep on walking. But if they approach me, uh oh. They knock down the price for me when i say it is too expensive, they try to offer more things for cheap or free when I say I am not interested. Ugh, I wonder if they have to even sell certain amount of items everyday so they have to treat people that way to make money to keep their job?
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Calandale on September 19, 2008, 07:57:27 PM
Yes. But, it's not always a good idea.
I can be a royal ass, when I need to.

Unfortunately, I'm a method actor.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Alex179 on September 19, 2008, 09:31:32 PM
Good to know.

I could learn the terminology if I spent enough time at it, but cars really don't interest me. I'm one of those ditzes who cares foremost about the color.
That is the last thing I care about usually.   They can always get you one in another color from another dealership (well new cars).   I care about reliability, gas mileage, power, handling, options and price.   When I get down to the specific model of car that I want, then I look at things like color and options.   Learning enough of the terminology isn't difficult at all.   You just can't let them know that you want that specific car, always make it seem like you have another deal on the table that is better elsewhere.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: punkdrew on September 19, 2008, 10:14:01 PM
If I've had enough sleep or caffeine I'm OK. Otherwise I fold.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Phlexor on September 20, 2008, 07:43:56 AM
What really gets my blood boiling is those fuckers that set up small stalls or kiosks in the walk ways of large shopping centres or malls etc and pounce on you even if they think you've made some fleeting eye contact with them.

There have been times when they have walked up and started their hassle and I haven't even broke stride and loudly told them to fuck off.

Just like those door to door sales people or those fuckstains that want you to change phone carriers or your gas or electricity.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Natalia Evans on September 20, 2008, 08:48:14 AM
Oh god I hate that too. I go to a mall to have a good time and I don't need sales people telling me to try out their product. I know what's next if I allow them to show me it. I'll just say I'm busy and have no time. Yeah no time to waste my time with them so therefore that isn't lying  :lol:.



I have never encountered sales people before except children who are doing fundraising for their school or selling girl scout cookies, or selling candy bars for their sports team. I wouldn't mind sales children because they don't try and pressure you to buy. You just say "no thanks" and they walk away.

But since I have moved here, I still haven't encountered door to door sales people. 
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: jman on September 20, 2008, 11:52:14 AM
I deal with this sometimes when I go into department stores like sears or Macy's. They'll say "do you want to use your charge card" I'll say "no" then they'll say "do you have  a charge card?" I'll say "no" and then they'll try pressuring me into singing up for one it's obnoxious and annoying! :grrr: Nowadays I just tell them I have a charge but I will not be using it.


Car salesmen are the worst, I remember one time they kept trying to pressure me into buying a car I didn't even really want, when I walked the sales manager and the dealer literally chased out in the parking lot. It was really pathetic.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Calandale on September 20, 2008, 02:03:13 PM
Dammit! Just realize you owe these people NOTHING.
They are intruding on you. And they've been trained
to ignore the signs that we normally drive people away
with.

Either play with them, or ignore.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Phlexor on September 20, 2008, 08:34:22 PM
Dammit! Just realize you owe these people NOTHING.
They are intruding on you. And they've been trained
to ignore the signs that we normally drive people away
with.

Either play with them, or ignore.

Or you could give them that look that says if they don't stop you will go back to your car and get your gun.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Calandale on September 20, 2008, 09:17:42 PM
Dammit! Just realize you owe these people NOTHING.
They are intruding on you. And they've been trained
to ignore the signs that we normally drive people away
with.

Either play with them, or ignore.

Or you could give them that look that says if they don't stop you will go back to your car and get your gun.

Try reading again.

And, actually GETTING the gun can cause more
problems than it's worth.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Phlexor on September 20, 2008, 09:36:10 PM
Dammit! Just realize you owe these people NOTHING.
They are intruding on you. And they've been trained
to ignore the signs that we normally drive people away
with.

Either play with them, or ignore.

Or you could give them that look that says if they don't stop you will go back to your car and get your gun.

Try reading again.

And, actually GETTING the gun can cause more
problems than it's worth.

Sigh, I didn't mean an NT version of that stare, I mean an aspie version. I've given the stare and had salespeople believe it. They just stop in their tracks and kinda wait for you to leave or turn away.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Natalia Evans on September 20, 2008, 09:56:01 PM
I was telling this to my boyfriend and it made him laugh.


A sales person is pressuring me to buy. I keep saying "no." Then I finally snap at her and she says "You don't need to be rude."
I say, "Well what do you expect, you keep harassing me to buy something and I have told you "no" a few times. Do you not understand the word 'no?' Even a one year old knows what that word means, you should too because you're smarter than a baby."



(No this didn't actually happened, I was just telling it as an example about me I should start getting aggressive with them)

Oh yeah maybe I should add this insult "Or are you not smarter than a one year old since you don't seem to understand what 'no' means. I'm surprised you can walk and talk and have the ability to pester people to buy. Very smart for a retard with a IQ below 25."

That might show them.  >:D
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Phlexor on September 20, 2008, 09:59:34 PM
reminds me of telemarketers that call at 8pm. you hang up on them and they call back to tell you that that is rude. i mean wtf? like calling at 8pm isn't rude in the first place?
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Calandale on September 20, 2008, 10:32:07 PM


Sigh, I didn't mean an NT version of that stare, I mean an aspie version. I've given the stare and had salespeople believe it. They just stop in their tracks and kinda wait for you to leave or turn away.

I give it quite naturally.
Indeed, the vast majority of
people don't even approach me.

Those that do, tend to be kinda tenacious.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Phlexor on September 20, 2008, 11:24:38 PM


Sigh, I didn't mean an NT version of that stare, I mean an aspie version. I've given the stare and had salespeople believe it. They just stop in their tracks and kinda wait for you to leave or turn away.

I give it quite naturally.
Indeed, the vast majority of
people don't even approach me.

Those that do, tend to be kinda tenacious.

Or the sort of people who get killed first in horror movies.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Calandale on September 20, 2008, 11:30:55 PM
Yeah. But disposing of bodies every time I go to
the mall, gets tedious. I gave up going to them,
instead.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Pyraxis on September 20, 2008, 11:33:45 PM
Or the sort of people who get killed first in horror movies.

 :laugh: Yeah, that's how I lost my first Cthulu characters. I learned fast.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Calandale on September 20, 2008, 11:41:36 PM
Trying to get a deep one to fill out a credit card application?
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Phlexor on September 21, 2008, 12:01:40 AM
Yeah. But disposing of bodies every time I go to
the mall, gets tedious. I gave up going to them,
instead.

Makes sense. I mean there is never enough time in a day.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Phlexor on September 21, 2008, 12:02:37 AM
Or the sort of people who get killed first in horror movies.

 :laugh: Yeah, that's how I lost my first Cthulu characters. I learned fast.

Man that game is awesome.
Title: Re: Can Aspies stand up to "salespeople"
Post by: Calandale on September 21, 2008, 12:17:45 AM
I never could get into it,
the way I felt it should be.

I'd get all excited, but the mood just
wasn't there.