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Title: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: Al Swearegen on February 08, 2008, 07:08:03 AM
First time since Christmas Day which was the first time since before Easter.

Well worth the $6000 in Lawyer and court fees.

So fucking excited. I can start being a Dad again.
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: Callaway on February 08, 2008, 07:09:18 AM
This is great!  How often will you get to see them, now that you have gone to court?
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: purposefulinsanity on February 08, 2008, 07:33:56 AM
That's great news- hope you have fun with them.  :)
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: Al Swearegen on February 08, 2008, 07:36:43 AM
6 weeks of 4 hours on Saturdays.
6weeks of Saturday sleep overs
Then every fortnight Pick up from school on Friday and drop off on Monday morning.

Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: Soph on February 08, 2008, 07:43:57 AM
That's awesome
I'm glad you get to see them again
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: Calandale on February 08, 2008, 07:47:49 AM
Cool. Pity you had to fight to get that right.
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: Al Swearegen on February 08, 2008, 07:50:17 AM
Cool. Pity you had to fight to get that right.

Thanks. Yeah its she's a bitch
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: McGiver on February 08, 2008, 08:17:30 AM
Cool. Pity you had to fight to get that right.

Thanks. Yeah its she's a bitch
are you completely innocent in all this?
i mean, are you an abusive drunk or sommat?
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: Al Swearegen on February 08, 2008, 08:38:22 AM
Good question and a fair one.
I made a bit of a rod for my own back when I split up with my ex.
I spent years basically being overly accommodating and giving everything I could to make sure the kids were OK (and her by default). Also making sure she was happy so therefore I had better access to kids.
The more I gave the more she accepted and when I finally started to "pull it back" she got the shits. When she demanded I would start considering me first. I even had the cheek to tell her where to get off when she was a bitch.

My boy needed specialist schooling for his autism support. We had to move individually 3000kms and start over in Canberra. Things came to a head here.
$20000-$25000 to move and establish myself and her demanding and dragging shit up from the past, etc....I was a little brutally honest with what I texted her on her mobile.

She stopped me seeing the kids.

No I was never abusive but her affidavit in court was "suggestive" of my general demeanor in such a way that she was hinting lots of faults without being able to be pinned down on anything. Plenty of citing the children as having said this and that (alone with her). My Asperger's of course got a starring performance as a distant, obsessive, unmanageable menace to her and the kids well being.

So ummm....short answer given some history "No."
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: McGiver on February 08, 2008, 08:40:22 AM
word of advice for the future:
never give the ladies too much or allow them to feel too comfortable.  they generally are never happy enough.
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: Al Swearegen on February 08, 2008, 08:47:59 AM
Mate thanks but it is OK. Met at 20, dating (rooting) at 21/22, married at 25, divorced 31...................37 now, it took me a while to get cynical, jaded, bitter and selfish enough to be a sensible male.
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: McGiver on February 08, 2008, 08:50:29 AM
Mate thanks but it is OK. Met at 20, dating (rooting) at 21/22, married at 25, divorced 31...................37 now, it took me a while to get cynical, jaded, bitter and selfish enough to be a sensible male.

yes, the female of the species will train you if you take the time to pay attention.

i got lucky, i became a well trained optimist before i had children.
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: jman on February 08, 2008, 02:14:35 PM
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it took me a while to get cynical, jaded, bitter and selfish enough to be a sensible male.

That's where I am at now at 24 going on 25.
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: vodz on February 08, 2008, 06:32:25 PM
Mate thanks but it is OK. Met at 20, dating (rooting) at 21/22, married at 25, divorced 31...................37 now, it took me a while to get cynical, jaded, bitter and selfish enough to be a sensible male.

yes, the female of the species will train you if you take the time to pay attention.

i got lucky, i became a well trained optimist before i had children.

Gentlemen, keep those nasty bitches on a short leash!  :police:
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: vodz on February 08, 2008, 06:33:09 PM
Congrats on your outcome Sir Les!
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: Calandale on February 08, 2008, 08:47:20 PM
Mate thanks but it is OK. Met at 20, dating (rooting) at 21/22, married at 25, divorced 31...................37 now, it took me a while to get cynical, jaded, bitter and selfish enough to be a sensible male.


I hope I never get there.
Title: Re: Seeing my kids tomorrow
Post by: renaeden on February 08, 2008, 10:35:55 PM
Sir Les, I feel really happy for you and your kids. There is nothing like having your dad with you and supporting you when you are growing up.
:)