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Title: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Natalia Evans on January 15, 2010, 12:20:21 AM
So many traits, can relate to me, used to be a lot like me, he is scared he could have it.

I ask him "What is there to be afraid of?"

"Then there be another thing wrong with me"

I tell him "Even if you do have it, you still have it before the label."

"I am not paying any money for any label and tests, that be a waste of money."

I tell him his brain damage could be the cause of his traits and he says "brain damage don't cause it, traits run in my family."


Not a big deal if he does or not. I don't know if he has it or not so it's easier to say he doesn't have it. I call him aspie like instead because of so many traits. But he lacks meltdowns, stimming unless you want to count him tapping his feet, inflexibility which he had in his childhood, motor mannerisms. But he is less aspie than me.

He calls himself an aspie to turn me on since I'm aspiesexual. He isn't self diagnosed. He doesn't want it and doesn't want to know.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Peter on January 15, 2010, 04:14:40 AM
He calls himself an aspie to turn me on since I'm aspiesexual.

I approve of this sexual orientation.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: TheoK on January 15, 2010, 04:24:56 AM
Seconded.  :agreed: :squit: :69: :nomakened: :whipped: :orgasm: :ATM: :missionary: :3some: :titfuck: :handjob: :doggy: :anal: :redneck: :oral: :booty: :dominatrix:
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Al Swearegen on January 15, 2010, 06:55:56 AM
Damn Theok!  :lol:

Cutting out the bestiality and you look like you have a respectable orgy going on in your head. With the dog and cow? Well.....? Good to have you back and posting anyhow.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: DukeNukem on January 15, 2010, 09:47:54 AM
There are bigger things to be afraid of, like being a homosexual.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Callaway on January 15, 2010, 10:44:48 AM
So many traits, can relate to me, used to be a lot like me, he is scared he could have it.

I ask him "What is there to be afraid of?"

"Then there be another thing wrong with me"

I tell him "Even if you do have it, you still have it before the label."

"I am not paying any money for any label and tests, that be a waste of money."

I tell him his brain damage could be the cause of his traits and he says "brain damage don't cause it, traits run in my family."


Not a big deal if he does or not. I don't know if he has it or not so it's easier to say he doesn't have it. I call him aspie like instead because of so many traits. But he lacks meltdowns, stimming unless you want to count him tapping his feet, inflexibility which he had in his childhood, motor mannerisms. But he is less aspie than me.

He calls himself an aspie to turn me on since I'm aspiesexual. He isn't self diagnosed. He doesn't want it and doesn't want to know.

I wonder how much good it would do for him to pursue a diagnosis now anyway, especially if he doesn't want to.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: odeon on January 15, 2010, 12:21:57 PM
No point at all. But I like "aspiesexual". :P
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Al Swearegen on January 15, 2010, 12:33:54 PM
There are bigger things to be afraid of, like being a homosexual.

I know. It is a fear seeded deep within your loins
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: odeon on January 15, 2010, 01:24:28 PM
There are bigger things to be afraid of, like being a homosexual.

I know. It is a fear seeded deep within your loins

Maybe he'll be able to embrace his inner closet soon?
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Natalia Evans on January 15, 2010, 03:12:24 PM
He doesn't need another label. He does fine without it.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: odeon on January 15, 2010, 03:15:05 PM
I like the self-adhesive kind.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: DukeNukem on January 15, 2010, 06:03:10 PM
I like the self-adhesive kind.

Cum?
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Lemon Aguilera on January 15, 2010, 06:55:48 PM
you're married spo? wtf
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: punkdrew on January 15, 2010, 07:07:31 PM
Id like to get tested but Im scared too. Plus it is expensive. Much cheaper to get tested for AIDS.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Natalia Evans on January 15, 2010, 10:42:50 PM
you're married spo? wtf


It happened in June.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: renaeden on January 16, 2010, 02:01:51 AM
you're married spo? wtf
It happened in June.
You barely said anything about it iirc.

Does your husband already have diagnoses?
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Natalia Evans on January 16, 2010, 03:30:33 AM
What's IIRC?


I guess I am not as open as I thought I was.


No my hubby isn't diagnosed. He is diagnosed with other things.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: renaeden on January 16, 2010, 03:41:57 AM
IIRC = If I Recall Correctly.

What other diagnoses does your husband have (I already knew it wasn't Asperger's)?
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: DukeNukem on January 16, 2010, 10:22:36 AM
What's IIRC?


I guess I am not as open as I thought I was.


No my hubby isn't diagnosed. He is diagnosed with other things.

Like homosexuality?
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: El on January 16, 2010, 11:44:53 AM
So many traits, can relate to me, used to be a lot like me, he is scared he could have it.

I ask him "What is there to be afraid of?"

"Then there be another thing wrong with me"

I tell him "Even if you do have it, you still have it before the label."

 :plus: For seeing the pragmatic side of the issue.   :thumbup:
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Natalia Evans on January 16, 2010, 07:17:23 PM
IIRC = If I Recall Correctly.

What other diagnoses does your husband have (I already knew it wasn't Asperger's)?


Nasal disease
His bad feet
Dyslexia
Two other learning disabilities
Dysplaxia (brain damage)
Partial complex seizures

Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: renaeden on January 16, 2010, 10:24:52 PM
IIRC = If I Recall Correctly.

What other diagnoses does your husband have (I already knew it wasn't Asperger's)?
Nasal disease
His bad feet
Dyslexia
Two other learning disabilities
Dysplaxia (brain damage)
Partial complex seizures
I guess it is no wonder he doesn't want another dx!
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Natalia Evans on January 17, 2010, 01:11:14 PM
This gets better, he also has issues with balance and sensory issues and he also has anxiety. He also had depression and still gets depressed every now and then.

But the medicine he is on for seizures, it helped with his anxiety and sensory issues. They're milder now.

Last night he's decided to self diagnose for me just so I get turned on. I don't know if he was serious or if it was just for that moment or if he actually thinks he has it.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Adam on January 17, 2010, 01:59:25 PM
AS diagnosis doesn't change whether you have it or not so I don't see it as a problem.

For me I'd like to be certain (or as certain as you can be) whether I have this or that.

I am diagnosed with AS but not sure if I have it tbh. If there was a way of finding out for definite, then I'd hope it turned out I did have AS. Not because I like it or want to have it lol, but because I'm still the same person regardless; having the diagnosis just puts a name to it so that you can deal with it better. I mean if you know what you have, you can do something about it.

Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: El on January 20, 2010, 05:32:56 AM
AS diagnosis doesn't change whether you have it or not so I don't see it as a problem.

For me I'd like to be certain (or as certain as you can be) whether I have this or that.

I am diagnosed with AS but not sure if I have it tbh. If there was a way of finding out for definite, then I'd hope it turned out I did have AS. Not because I like it or want to have it lol, but because I'm still the same person regardless; having the diagnosis just puts a name to it so that you can deal with it better. I mean if you know what you have, you can do something about it.
*You* can 'do something about it' either way.  Depending where you live and what you have, if you put a name to something, you can get *help* with it.
Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Natalia Evans on January 20, 2010, 06:32:55 AM
AS diagnosis doesn't change whether you have it or not so I don't see it as a problem.

For me I'd like to be certain (or as certain as you can be) whether I have this or that.

I am diagnosed with AS but not sure if I have it tbh. If there was a way of finding out for definite, then I'd hope it turned out I did have AS. Not because I like it or want to have it lol, but because I'm still the same person regardless; having the diagnosis just puts a name to it so that you can deal with it better. I mean if you know what you have, you can do something about it.





I've been there and it drove me crazy. I shouldn't have listened to my ex lol. But when you're told something over and over, you start believing it after a while. I didn't do it for attention but then when I got over it, I stopped. I finally went to a therapist. If I didn't have it, oh well. But I was surprised when I got told I do. So I figured if I really do have it, then it's very mild. I also quit caring about autism labels, PDD-NOS, AS and autism. Lot of times it feels like I don't even have it but my husband says I have it all the time. I just live it so that's why I don't see it. Plus I don't go wondering "is this an aspie thing I did?"


Title: Re: My husband is scared of being an aspie
Post by: Adam on January 20, 2010, 10:49:27 AM
AS diagnosis doesn't change whether you have it or not so I don't see it as a problem.

For me I'd like to be certain (or as certain as you can be) whether I have this or that.

I am diagnosed with AS but not sure if I have it tbh. If there was a way of finding out for definite, then I'd hope it turned out I did have AS. Not because I like it or want to have it lol, but because I'm still the same person regardless; having the diagnosis just puts a name to it so that you can deal with it better. I mean if you know what you have, you can do something about it.
*You* can 'do something about it' either way.  Depending where you live and what you have, if you put a name to something, you can get *help* with it.

\That's what I meant. I am doing something about it. It would just be easier if I knew for certain what was wr0ng with me. I'm not using that as an excuse not to do anything about it though. I have made a lot of progress the last two years.