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Title: Vindictiveness
Post by: Parts on July 31, 2009, 07:03:47 PM
My wife says I am very vindictive I was just wondering if this was a common aspie trait of just part
 of my loving personality?   For Example a large super store that is locally owned and has lots of great deals and good food bought a large parcel of land next to the high way for a store they offered at make any improvements necessary but alas it it s snotty I'm better than you town and they don't want it even though it's in an isolated and very developed part part of town. After a 14 year legal battle they are selling and have no plans to  build any more in the state.  My plan was to find the most offensive thing that can be legally built there say low income housing and build it.   Fuck the town she says I should let it go' Opinions
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: matthe on July 31, 2009, 07:07:41 PM
build a strip club and call it "private parts"
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: earthboundmisfit on July 31, 2009, 07:10:39 PM
Or Parts' Privates
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Parts on July 31, 2009, 07:13:27 PM
I'll just stand there and flash people :laugh:
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: matthe on July 31, 2009, 07:27:19 PM
your name almost spells strip backwards
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Parts on July 31, 2009, 07:33:11 PM
They had a titty bar in Norwalk and the state revoked there liquor license because a church across the street so they when veggie bar and all nude  >:D
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: P7PSP on July 31, 2009, 08:02:56 PM
I think it's a normal trait, I used to be vindictive but I have mellowed with age.
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Parts on July 31, 2009, 08:14:34 PM
I mellowed to I wrote fuck you an someone assholes bath tuns with a utility knife when I was younger once
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: P7PSP on July 31, 2009, 08:21:22 PM
It's cool to have a mean streak for when it is needed but some problems resolve themselves if you leave them alone. Knowing when to leave it alone and when to jump down someone's throat can be tricky. Fortunately I haven't had to get real pissed for a while.
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Parts on July 31, 2009, 08:27:43 PM
So do I
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: matthe on July 31, 2009, 08:36:32 PM
i actually have a hard time getting pissed without losing my cool.

     being pissed and calm at the same time far more effective than just flying off the handle.

id like to be effective like that.

but most of the time in my life i think theres nothing i can really do to mnake changes so being vindictave is the only outlet.

Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Parts on July 31, 2009, 08:39:32 PM
I can hold it together long enough  most ot the time to really  fuck people up that annoy me
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Icequeen on July 31, 2009, 09:45:27 PM
I don't think I'm vindictive. 

Sneaky and devious maybe, vindictive?  Never.  :angel:
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: P7PSP on July 31, 2009, 09:51:33 PM
I can hold it together long enough  most ot the time to really  fuck people up that annoy me
I do like the expression when you cut them off at the knees after allowing them to savor false victory. It is not for every occasion and not everyone deserves that level of defeat, but where it is appropriate it really fucks up their psyche.  >:D
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Parts on July 31, 2009, 09:52:23 PM
Sneaky and devious I have a good handle one as it it
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: ProfessorFarnsworth on July 31, 2009, 10:22:33 PM
I'm extremely vindictive and rather patience about how I execute revenge. Usually I only do that with people who really piss me off or absolutely deserve it.
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Natalia Evans on July 31, 2009, 10:36:35 PM
I've been called vindictive and my husband agreed I have some in me. He can also see I am agressive.
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: TheoK on August 01, 2009, 03:07:28 AM
My wife says I am very vindictive I was just wondering if this was a common aspie trait of just part
 of my loving personality?   For Example a large super store that is locally owned and has lots of great deals and good food bought a large parcel of land next to the high way for a store they offered at make any improvements necessary but alas it it s snotty I'm better than you town and they don't want it even though it's in an isolated and very developed part part of town. After a 14 year legal battle they are selling and have no plans to  build any more in the state.  My plan was to find the most offensive thing that can be legally built there say low income housing and build it.   Fuck the town she says I should let it go' Opinions

Yes, I'm what they call a "rättshaverist" in Swedish, and so is my father, grandfather and my grandfather's cousin, who is a pretty well known businessman in Sweden.  8)
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Blasted on August 01, 2009, 03:20:17 AM
I think I am quite vindictive :/
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Frolic_Fun on August 01, 2009, 06:06:11 AM
My mother is extremely vindictive, especially towards people like my dad.

I am a bit vindictive too myself, but if I don't like someone then I just ignore them.
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: RageBeoulve on August 01, 2009, 03:33:04 PM
I am one hundred percent vindictive. If someone fucks with me, I WILL get revenge. And what I do to get back is usually like ten times worse.
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Nukey on August 06, 2009, 06:38:31 PM
I am very vindictive, too. I spend quite some time planning or just thinking about it.  I very seldom do more than that, though. I never forgive when someone has wronged me. (I'm not talking accidentally bumping me on the street or something in that league. I only mean either things that had serious consequences or scarred me deeply in some emotional way.)

It's supposed to be an Aspie thing to not be able to forgive things that it's "reasonable" to forgive (according to Christopher Gillberg, a shrink that seems to be quite prejudiced against us.
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Blasted on August 06, 2009, 06:55:14 PM
I think I am quite vindictive :/

Although I'm more grudge-bearing really.  Which I guess is worse  :lol:
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: RageBeoulve on August 06, 2009, 06:56:30 PM
I think I am quite vindictive :/

Although I'm more grudge-bearing really.  Which I guess is worse  :lol:

I put careful thought into everything. Revenge is no different to me. I'm extremely vindictive.
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Mr Smith on October 17, 2009, 04:14:09 AM
Vindictiveness is not an aspie trait.

I personally cannot be bothered with anyone expressing this trait - aspie or not. They go completely onto my "people to avoid and ignore" list. I was talking to PMS Elle about an aspie stalker I had who was very vindictive.

Not cutting this shit.
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Al Swearegen on October 17, 2009, 07:12:08 AM
I am very vindictive. It is a dog eat dog world and I have learned that as honourable as it is turning the other cheek people tend not to learn anything from this and may make you feel like a better person but the bully learns nothing and likely will not change their ways.
Nail them. Make them pay.
Find their weakness and expose it and show them that you are not going to meekly lie down for them to kick you.
Hell we teach our kids to be independent and confident and that good manners requires if you do the wrong thing to acknowledge it, accept it, apologise and seek to make it right. Basic stuff.
Someone tries it on and they deserve to be hit hard and revisit the lessons of their childhood and register that they deserve the arse kicking they just received and probably a good deal more for times that others did not do it.
May make me a "bad" person but I can live with that very easily and I refuse to be a victim or someone's punching bag. :)
Title: Re: Vindictiveness
Post by: Mr Smith on October 17, 2009, 07:15:55 AM
It depends on the reasoning behind the vindictiveness too.

If someone hardout wrongs you, then its fine.

But there are petty things and pathetic actions people do - those are what I can't be bothered with. Usually a combination of vindictiveness and manipulativeness.