Should I and Tanya get back together

[Leto729]

My ex girlfriend wants to together again

[Callaway]

Do you want to?

[Leto729]

She is here trying to convince Me to try again.

[Tesla]

It depends on what you want.

Is the sex good?

[Leto729]

We have not have sex yet.

[Parts]

Did she threaten to have someone break your leg   


If you want to don't let her force or guilt you into it.  Think of how she was before people don't change much so if there where issues before they will not disappear no matter what she says

[Alex179]

Is she bad for you, or you for her?    Is she worth dealing with?   The problems you two had that caused the break up, are those resolved?  You should weigh the pros and cons of getting back together with her.

[Leto729]

Did she threaten to have someone break your leg   


If you want to don't let her force or guilt you into it.  Think of how she was before people don't change much so if there where issues before they will not disappear no matter what she says

No

I would not allow Her to force Herself on Me.

She is trying to change but it is hard for Her to do so.

[Leto729]

Is she bad for you, or you for her?    Is she worth dealing with?   The problems you two had that caused the break up, are those resolved?  You should weigh the pros and cons of getting back together with her.

Neither I believe.

She can be worth dealing with.

She has Bi-Polar disorder.
She takes what I say sometimes the opposite of what I mean. For Me they are resolve but to Her maybe not resolved yet.

I am weighing the pros and cons of it.

[Lucifer]

good plan.

kevv, you can think about it for ages, or you can go with your instincts, or - dare i say - heart.  what feels right?

it's up to you, and whatever you choose, it isn't carved in stone - you can change things if they don't work out, and if they do.

what a difficult decision, though. 

[Callaway]

I found this thing you wrote about her almost a year ago, if it helps at all, Kevv.

This is what I have witnessed with Tanya so far she can get very moody. I am going to have to watch what I say around Her because she gets moody very quickly. Then She does not what to talk to Me about whatever is bothering Her from what I have said to Her to make Her very moody in the end. It takes a lot joking around to get Her to start talking about what is bothering Her from what I have done to Her. So far the humor I have done has always worked so far with Her in the end.

It has been 17 years since the last real girlfriend I have had. So I am learning about what ticks off Tanya in the end. I don't do this to push Her buttons or anything like that. The relationship is still young at this stage yet.

Example We went to a picnic today with some friends. My meds where at low ebb and got a bit tired plus I also did not sleep a lot last night either. So I wanted to take a quick nap. She got a bit worried about Me. After We got to the picnic site she got a bit moody with Me. I had to go find Her and tell her it was time to eat. She did not want to come with Me. At this point I had not used humor yet and she even got even more moody with Me. After awhile I used humor and got Her to relax and tell Me what was bothering Her and what I did to get Her in this moody state. the rest of the picnic went find after that in the end.

Still learning about Her very much.

I think that Lucifer's right though.  You should do whatever your heart tells you to do.

[Leto729]

I know She has Her ups and downs.

She can be laughing one moment and truly angry the next.
I know that is the Bi-polar disorder doing that.

kevv, you can think about it for ages, or you can go with your instincts, or - dare i say - heart, what feel right

My instincts say one thing, My heart does feel for Her very much though.

[DirtDawg]

I do not know who Tanya is, Kevv.

I also only know a small bit about your life. I have gathered that you have stopped drinking, that you suspect that you should remain sober and that you do not want to drink at all any more.
If you are serious about stopping drinking there are things that you MUST do if you are serious about sobriety and want to be successful.
I will say that if you knew her while you were drinking and you are planning to continue NOT drinking, then she could turn out to be a challenge to your sobriety.

I know that you probably do not understand that statement, but one of the first things written between the lines of a twelve step program is that you must sever ties with your drinking friends, until you have enough support from family, sponsors, sober friends, etc, that old ties and habits can not cause you to consider giving up your progress.

Is she one of your old, drinking girlfriends? If so, I see no need to say more.

I'm pulling for you , buddy!


Ask your sponsor.

[Leto729]

I do not know who Tanya is, Kevv.

I also only know a small bit about your life. I have gathered that you have stopped drinking, that you suspect that you should remain sober and that you do not want to drink at all any more.
If you are serious about stopping drinking there are things that you MUST do if you are serious about sobriety and want to be successful.
I will say that if you knew her while you were drinking and you are planning to continue NOT drinking, then she could turn out to be a challenge to your sobriety.

I know that you probably do not understand that statement, but one of the first things written between the lines of a twelve step program is that you must sever ties with your drinking friends, until you have enough support from family, sponsors, sober friends, etc, that old ties and habits can not cause you to consider giving up your progress.

Is she one of your old, drinking girlfriends? If so, I see no need to say more.

I'm pulling for you , buddy!


Ask your sponsor.

She does not drink so I don't have worry about that.

I always drink alone Myself.

[DirtDawg]

I do not know who Tanya is, Kevv.

I also only know a small bit about your life. I have gathered that you have stopped drinking, that you suspect that you should remain sober and that you do not want to drink at all any more.
If you are serious about stopping drinking there are things that you MUST do if you are serious about sobriety and want to be successful.
I will say that if you knew her while you were drinking and you are planning to continue NOT drinking, then she could turn out to be a challenge to your sobriety.

I know that you probably do not understand that statement, but one of the first things written between the lines of a twelve step program is that you must sever ties with your drinking friends, until you have enough support from family, sponsors, sober friends, etc, that old ties and habits can not cause you to consider giving up your progress.

Is she one of your old, drinking girlfriends? If so, I see no need to say more.

I'm pulling for you , buddy!


Ask your sponsor.

She does not drink so I don't have worry about that.

I always drink alone Myself.

So, it's back to what YOU think about Her.

Do you Want to be with her.



I know forcy women are seldom trustworthy, but she Knows you, Right? You have been together in the past, Right?

Maybe her Pushy Behavior is her way of motivating into action an Aspie worth having.


Make your OWN mind, Kevv.