I don't know about anyone else, but my decision to be here is based on me wanting to
'harden the fuck up' when it comes to how a feel about what other think and say about me.
This place has a name and a reputation, so when people make a choice to be here, there is some level of understanding of what they are in for. We are all adults here, per the rules (sure there might be a few who are lying about there age), so to me, that means all bets are off.
We each individually decide to act in a manner that we feel best represents ourselves and we make that choice on our own. If other wish to judge us by that, and they will, so be it.
Wishing others would self moderate is a cowards way of saying "I want rules here and the way people are acting towards one another upsets me".
At the end of the day you have two choices, leave or the ignore button.
Have a nice day.