The thing is, these guys must have something that you don't. Just because you can't see it or do not value it doesn't mean it isnt important to these women.
Had an ex-friend (also on the spectrum) who used to go on and on about how his girlfriend left him for some complete loser guy and he though she was trading down etc. The thing is, I bet this other guy didn't have to win ever argument and always be right like my ex-friend did. He could never understand how that would really turn off a girl and drive her away.