Taking the piss...

[odeon]

So that's what it's for?

[Mr Smith]

Seems more like it's taking the piss out of aspies tbh.

[Phlexor]

Yeah, but if any one of us here had control of a giant electronic bill board, it wouldnt take very long to make a complete bill out yourself.

[Lucifer]

^ doesn't get it. 

[Phlexor]

I think what I'm trying to say is that no matter how much we are on guard or how much we try, we will end up saying something completely stupid on the count of AS.

Which I think is the defining thing about it. No matter how smart we are or how prepared, there is always room for a foot or 2 in our mouths.

Other ppl pick up on this.

[Lucifer]

I think what I'm trying to say is that no matter how much we are on guard or how much we try, we will end up saying something completely stupid on the count of AS.

Which I think is the defining thing about it. No matter how smart we are or how prepared, there is always room for a foot or 2 in our mouths.

Other ppl pick up on this.

oh, absolutely.  which is why i've tried changing my attitude towards it, cos changing other people is more difficult.  well, sometimes (newts are easy). 

[renaeden]

In what way have you changed your attitude towards it (if you don't mind my asking)?

[Phlexor]

For me, its about embracing how socially retarded I am at times.

[Lucifer]

In what way have you changed your attitude towards it (if you don't mind my asking)?

i dont mind at all.

instead of getting really stressed and frustrated with myself, and beating myself up about it, i am more able to see the funny side of it.  of course, there are times when i can't, cos it has more serious ramifications, but i actually love the childlike (i.e., innocent) nature of some of my gaffs, and think it's sweet.  also, my naughty streak finds it funny.

so i've allowed all of those positive things through, rather than automatically getting angry with myself for making a mistake.  i've also learned how to put things right a bit better, since realising it's AS and not me being stupid/ignorant.

[Callaway]

I usually laugh at myself too.

It beats getting upset with myself.

[odeon]

I can become very upset with myself. Can't help it, really. Don't know how.

[Lucifer]

I can become very upset with myself. Can't help it, really. Don't know how.

we can work on it.  (ETT). 

[Callaway]

I can become very upset with myself. Can't help it, really. Don't know how.

Laugh at some of the quirky stuff instead and give yourself a break.  It's not like we do this stuff deliberately or maliciously.

My problem has usually been that I am my own harshest critic.  That may be good for me in some ways, since it motivates me to try to do better next time, but it is easy to take it too far.  I would never criticize someone else the way I do myself, so sometimes I try to think how I would react if a friend or my daughter had done the same thing I did.  If a friend did it, I would probably just laugh about it and move on.  If my daughter did it, I would probably calmly explain why it caused a problem and move on.  So what would be the point of me being all upset with myself over it?

[odeon]

I can become very upset with myself. Can't help it, really. Don't know how.

we can work on it.  (ETT). 

ETT?

[odeon]

I can become very upset with myself. Can't help it, really. Don't know how.

Laugh at some of the quirky stuff instead and give yourself a break.  It's not like we do this stuff deliberately or maliciously.

My problem has usually been that I am my own harshest critic.  That may be good for me in some ways, since it motivates me to try to do better next time, but it is easy to take it too far.  I would never criticize someone else the way I do myself, so sometimes I try to think how I would react if a friend or my daughter had done the same thing I did.  If a friend did it, I would probably just laugh about it and move on.  If my daughter did it, I would probably calmly explain why it caused a problem and move on.  So what would be the point of me being all upset with myself over it?

There is no point. I know that. It's just that I can't help myself.