yes that's what I mean! I'm glad you understood what I was saying coz I couldn't tell if I was making sense or anything. I really honestly think all three of you willl be fine. Obviously having an asshole dad makes things harder, especially for monkeyboy. But as long as you have one decent parent who's gonna raise you properly and love you, you will grow up fine. that's what I think anyway. for both your family and mine. i'M NOT JUST SAYING THAT TO MAKE U FEEL BETTER OR anything, I do think you are a great mum from how I know you online imo. you will do them kids fine, I know it.