If you were in a relationship, what would you like or do you think it would look/work like?
Hard to say, when I don't have the desire for a relationship. But a few factors that would be important:
- spectrum-friendly. Don't care if the partner's spectrum, but it must be accepted if I act weird.
- alone time and privacy critical. No emotional manipulation, no "if you really loved me, you'd talk to me" bullshit.
- intense periods of contact followed by total or near-total withdrawal. The partner might not even live in the same city so long as we flew to see each other once a month or so, or for a few weeks every few months.
- room for forward motion critical. I must be learning something or improving something, or the partner and I must be working towards a common goal. "Comfortable" would be the death of my caring about the partner.
- dealbreakers: depression/laziness/apathy. Everyone's human but I would be totally turned off by those as a recurring personality trait
Perks (not all necessary, but the more the better)
- imagination
- intelligence
- androgyny
- love of pushing limits
- charisma
- weirdness
- introspection/spirituality